rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I've been seeing this man for two months. We decided to be exclusive and things have progressed so that now we spend a lot of time being naked around each other. In fact, that's my issue now. Sex with him is amazing. I am completely infatuated with him, to the point where when I'm around him, that's all I can think about. I fear that it's getting in the way of us actually getting to know each other and seeing if we are otherwise truly compatible. Any advice on how to keep amazing sex from getting in the way of a budding relationship?
You'reasian Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I've been seeing this man for two months. We decided to be exclusive and things have progressed so that now we spend a lot of time being naked around each other. In fact, that's my issue now. Sex with him is amazing. I am completely infatuated with him, to the point where when I'm around him, that's all I can think about. I fear that it's getting in the way of us actually getting to know each other and seeing if we are otherwise truly compatible. Any advice on how to keep amazing sex from getting in the way of a budding relationship? balance. Have the amazing sex - just not all the time. Do stuff together - go hang out, something casual, fun and easy.
Author rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 balance. Have the amazing sex - just not all the time. Do stuff together - go hang out, something casual, fun and easy. We do go out quite a bit: dinner, theatre, movies, galleries. He's great at coming up with date ideas. Even on dates, we cannot keep our hands off each other. Yes, we are one of those annoying couples. I'm so into the level of intimacy we reach when we are in bed together, that I feel a bit lost when we are in situations where we cannot be affectionate towards each other. I find myself constantly refering to our sexual connection and mutual attraction as a way to keep things intimate, even in the middle of dinner.
You'reasian Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 We do go out quite a bit: dinner, theatre, movies, galleries. He's great at coming up with date ideas. Even on dates, we cannot keep our hands off each other. Keep on doing what you're doing.
Author rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 Keep on doing what you're doing. I guess, all comes to worst, at least I will have had a fantastic time in bed! Thanks You'reasian, you've made me realize I am worrying for nothing. A part of me worried that maybe we might turn into a purely sexual thing if this keeps up. I really like this guy, and I am perhaps trying to force a relationship along. I will just focus on enjoying what's there for now. And, as you can tell, what's there is quite enjoyable.
You'reasian Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I guess, all comes to worst, at least I will have had a fantastic time in bed! Thanks You'reasian, you've made me realize I am worrying for nothing. A part of me worried that maybe we might turn into a purely sexual thing if this keeps up. I really like this guy, and I am perhaps trying to force a relationship along. I will just focus on enjoying what's there for now. And, as you can tell, what's there is quite enjoyable. It could bud into a fantastic relationship - you never know. Congratulations!
amaysngrace Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I was like this...very much so with my boyfriend when we first got together. Over three years later and my kids are gone for the weekend so it's been sex on Friday, sex yesterday, already sex today.... Plus he's my best friend. Just enjoy it Rachel. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship.
You'reasian Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I was like this...very much so with my boyfriend when we first got together. Over three years later and my kids are gone for the weekend so it's been sex on Friday, sex yesterday, already sex today.... Plus he's my best friend. Just enjoy it Rachel. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship. Can't imagine a better way to spend the weekend
amaysngrace Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Can't imagine a better way to spend the weekend Yes I lucked out. No period.
You'reasian Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Yes I lucked out. No period. All this talk about sex-E time... I must go. Have a wonderful weekend!
Lizzie60 Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I know exactly how you feel... and I even remember being soooo freaken exhausted of all the sex we were having.. but still we were horny all the time.... and exhausted.. It feels soo good.. but I know what you mean.. sometimes we wonder if we would take the sex out completely ...we would feel completely lost.. weird feeling...
Mahatma Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 You sound like my girlfriend. Sex alllllllll the time. I can tell you, if you keep at this rate, one of you will burn out though. Be proactively looking for other things to do. Sex is not bad, but try to keep it at once a day for the most part. Sometimes we're both just horny as heck and wanna go at it 3 or 4 times in a day and that's cool too, but not something you want to make a habit out of or it might begin to grow old.
westernxer Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I find myself constantly refering to our sexual connection and mutual attraction as a way to keep things intimate, even in the middle of dinner. Well, isn't he a lucky bastard?
Author rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 Well, isn't he a lucky bastard? Or a talented one .
Author rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 Awww, I'm happy for those of you who's relationship bloomed along with this level of sexual compatibility. It's powerful stuff, and the fact that I really like him definitely fuels it. Everything he does makes me melt, down to how he gives cab-drivers directions. He's such a sweet guy. But anyway, I will keep enjoying this, and stop fretting. Also, maybe I'll try to let the lost feeling ride itself out next time, just to see what happens.
Author rachel m Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 Does he have a brother? Sorry In the Green. No brother but he has three sisters! Explains a lot, doesn't it?
Midas Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Sounds to me like you have the beginnings of something very special.
Odyssey Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Rachel, By the sound of it, I think you're doing great, so I'm happy for both of you. Just go with the flow
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