iNdespaiR Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 as ive said on my previous post, my situation is very complicated right now. me and my ex broke up exactly a week ago.. i am 4 mos pregnant.. he said he doesnt want to be with me anymore.. i am hurt.. i begged, cried over the phone(we are apart).. he ignored it, and stick with his words.. by then i decided NC.. i just want to lessen if not completely remove the hurt i am feeling.. it is my 7th day of NC with him.. although there are times of the day i still cried hard.. but not all day as in before.. does my descision of NC will really help me go through it.. im not into hoping of him comin back.. i want to kill the feeling of love i still have for him.. guys, let me hear something from you.. i really need your words of wisdom.. thanks.. i really want to move on.. i want to remove all the stress i have right now, it is very unhealthy for me and the baby inside of me..
EmperorR Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Nc healed me both times and I no longer wake up in pain. I say stick with nc it does kills the love IMO and removes the Pain
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 i think i just have to stick with NC.. i really want to kill the pain i have inside
andy2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 hi ind it is hard but true. NC is the only way you can heal because you have tried things. strict NC is good for you. please read other posts on LS, there are many things you can do in order to go on nc. my wishes
notalone Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Yes, Nc does heal. It has helped me once before. The longer you drag a dead relationship, the more pain it will cause you. But healing takes time...don't expect to feel fine and dandy in a week's time. You are on the right path...keep going. It gets better.
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 thank God i found this site.. you know what, ive read a lot of posts here.. thats why i am enlightened.. i am on my 2nd week of NC. and i am proud to say that i am still coping with the pain. i know that i have to feel it right now, i cant pretend to be happy coz i am really dying inside.. thank you guys for the support.. i know i am on the right track
CaliGuy Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 NC absolutely helps you to heal as quickly as possible. Contact, on the other hand, draws out hope and makes the healing process take much, much longer.
lofi_tokyo Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Caliguy is right. NC speeds up the healing process tremendously. Before you know it, you'll find life has passed you by not because you've been grieving your ex, but because you've been having so much fun, or been so busy attaining some goal. You two have a child together, and I think a time will come when the two of you will need to talk (obviously), but for now, I suggest you make time for yourself.
sugarmomma Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 You may want to get in touch with some anger. That wil help in addition to the NC rule. He sounds like an azz leaving his pregnant girlfriend and ignoring her while anything could have happened. I wouldn't have another baby with this butthole. Screw him!!!!!!
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 i dont wanna feel any anger on him.. i dont wanna curse him, but i am decided really not to love him anymore.. today im on my 2nd week of NC.. inspired by some posts here on LS.. became addicted on reading here.. helped me a lot.. i can say im not into grieving but a little bit emotional.. missing him, but now wanting him back.. thanks to NC, i cant wait for more development on me.. maybe next week i can forget about crying.. but for now i still have to entertain my feeling of bein broken hearted, cry for sometime in a day.. and i know this thing will make me stronger.. i am doin this for me and my baby.. thank you guys.. maybe in days, weeks or months time, i can declare.. hes an azzh0le..
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 "missing him, but now wanting him back.." i meant not wanting him back.. that makes a big difference guys...
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 guys i need to hear from you.. i accidentally found out that he deleted his, friendster, myspace and facebook account.. what does it mean? does he moved on alredy why he did that?.. he already forgotten me at all? we have all our memories in his account.. he really wanna get rid of me..im on my 2nd week of nc.. totally no contact.. do i have to remove him to my aim? what do you think? these things bothered me but not a lot..
BoatLord Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 I really don't believe you "accidentally" found out he deleted those things. To me, it sounds like he is doing what you should be doing. Mainly, going no contact. I'm going through this too and it is very hard. One day, that hope of reconciliation will die down just a little bit and then the next day or even next week it'll die down a little more. Hopefully, every day or week will bring a little more healing. This has been my experience and yours may differ. You just have to hang tough and concentrate on you and that baby.
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 28, 2009 Author Posted May 28, 2009 i should not be bothered by this deleting thing... stick with NC.. does this really means he already moved on? and completely forgot about me?
BoatLord Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 I don't think you can really know for sure. Maybe, maybe not. But you should be concentrating on you and not him. I know it's really hard. But each time you "think" about him, you take a step back in your healing. I'm pulling for ya as are others!
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 29, 2009 Author Posted May 29, 2009 yah its hard but i am moving on.. NC helped me in a way
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 im on my 2nd week NC.. ex texted last night.. he told me that he's goin to send me money money tomorrow for my expenses... ??????? any reaction? have'nt replied to him yet.. do i have to?
andy2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 No. Do not reply him. nor accept any money. Let him feel guilt...what do u feel anyway
Author iNdespaiR Posted June 6, 2009 Author Posted June 6, 2009 he already sent it.. i said thanks anyways.. then i have to continue nc...
crackerjax9 Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 good for you two weeks of no contact! i couldnt do more than one or two days.. and it was always ME trying to contact him so i just blocked his number...on day two and already feel alot better
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