LadyV Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 So, today was my graduation day. I finally graduated from college!! My XH was there, and even sat with my family. He did bring his girlfriend which didn't bother me at all. We've been separated for almost 2 years and honestly, I am okay with her. After the ceremony, XH gave me a hug. He told me congratulations, and as he spoke, I could hear it in his voice...He pulled away, I looked at him, and he was tearing up. He walked away, and got something to drink, as well as probably take the attention off of him becuase my family saw this too. He took pictures of me with our kids, as well as pics of me with my family. When we were all leaving, he hugged me once again, and even kissed me on the cheek and continued to say congratulations. A little while later, I receive a text saying "Thanks for lettin me come. It's really great that you accomplished what you have. Might not mean much, but I am proud of you!" Wow...My XH wrote this!!! My reply: "Thank you "XH". That means a lot!! You helped me through a lot of that and I will always be thankful." My family and I went out to lunch, and when we got home, there was a card wedged in my door. I knew right away the handwriting on the envelope. It was XBF whom I have had NC with for 20 days. I open the card and it was a beautiful card...He wrote: "You definetely gave me the best that you have. I hope that it comes back to you 10x. I'm so happy that you got your walk, and your family was here. I would've loved to share that with you, but everything happens for a reason. I hope that you are well and happy. And I wish you all the success and happiness you deserve. Always, XBF." I was so shocked. I do no plan on responding or anything, although I wondered if I should. Then I think about how he is with her now and I just can't...but am thankful that I did get a card, as well as am shocked...and for him to personally bring it to my apt? Wow...I dunno. It was a really good day and a major accomplishment for me........I am glad that my family is so proud of me, and for both my XH and XBF tell me congrats? Well, that really does mean a lot....My XH's reaction took me by total surprise...I mean, for him to cry, then, as well as kiss me on the cheek and say congrats...WOW....His girlfriend was there, I wasn't sure if she saw it, I don't know. Then the card from XBFwas totally unexpected....I am keeping NC with XBF. I started to write an email and attach pictures, but deleted it because NC is NC and I have to stick to it, no matter how much it hurts....In the long run, it still is, and will be the best thing for ME to heal and keep moving forward....
broken_promises Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 CONGRATS!!! I am so proud of you. This IS such a major accomplishment. I am glad that you seemed to get a lot out of your XH and XBF's responses to your graduation. (It did cause me to feel sad for both of us because we are having to take solace in such bittersweet moments instead of, at least in my case, the kind of graduation I had imagined without all of the sadness.) I am proud of your NC decision too! Congrats all around.
Author LadyV Posted May 25, 2009 Author Posted May 25, 2009 Thank you for your reply. I keep thinking about my XH and the fact that he kissed me by my ear and the fact that he was crying...Wow, I haven't seen him like that in almost 2 years, before we split up. Anyway, it was a kind gesture, I know that is all it was, and I am not going to read into it. As far as XBF, I considered mailing him a thank you card, I don't know yet though. I just wanted to acknowledge I got it. Bad idea?
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