mortensorchid Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 There has been a lot of debate about Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys. When you say the word "Bad Boy", that makes me think of a variety of types (guys who get into trouble, dress a certain way, play women, etc.). What the Nice Guy is is still up for debate with me. The problem I have encountered lately is this : I have come across others who seem like "Nice Guys" upon first glance. They turn out to be not so nice guys. They tell you at first "I'm a nice guy, really! You women want to be treated nicely, I will treat you nicely!" However, they prove themselves to be not so nice. They might choose to end the relationship in a very immature way, they put you down just as much as a "bad boy" would. They might not be true "bad boys", but they are just as mean and condescending as a Bad Boy can be. With a Bad Boy, their behavior is too cut and dried, but it's those "Nice Guys" you have to be just as wary of. Any thoughts on this?
lifereversal Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Thats a true bad boy, and well said, wolf in sheep's clothing. He discovered a way for a woman to let her guard down, dont analyze him so much, and move in for the kill. Spoon feeding you what you wan't to hear. "Don't believe everything you hear." and "Actions speak louder then words."
start-fresh Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Never believe someone when they tell you they are "nice". True nice people never have to proclaim that trait. Their actions will show it and they know that. Some who says they're nice are usually hiding something: manipulative behavior, insecurities, the fact that they want validation, etc.
CommitmentPhobe Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Any thoughts on this? Yeah stop putting men into stupid boxes. The majority of men aren't wolf or sheep, just as the majority of women aren't sluts or nuns.
MissViolet Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Perfect words to describe it. I had an ex boyfriend who was the devil in sheep's clothing lol. We were friends for a long while, and I thought he was one of the nicest, funniest, smartest, "honest" guys I knew back then. But when we started dating, bits and pieces of his real self came into light. BUt then I'd tell myself, no way, "albert" is so nice and honest, he would never do such a thing...Low and behold, in the end he turned out to be a manipulative, lying, scheming, @-hole. I dumped his sorry butt and never looked back. So yeah....this is one of the reasons why I'm not quick to judge anymore. First impressions aren't always right,... but they usually are though...whatever lol
Jersey Shortie Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 The problem I have encountered lately is this : I have come across others who seem like "Nice Guys" upon first glance. They turn out to be not so nice guys. They tell you at first "I'm a nice guy, really! You women want to be treated nicely, I will treat you nicely!" However, they prove themselves to be not so nice. They might choose to end the relationship in a very immature way, they put you down just as much as a "bad boy" would. They might not be true "bad boys", but they are just as mean and condescending as a Bad Boy can be. With a Bad Boy, their behavior is too cut and dried, but it's those "Nice Guys" you have to be just as wary of. Any thoughts on this? Yeap, that has been my experience as well. I am always leary of when a man tells me he is a "nice guy". As the other poster said, a "nice guy" doesn't walk around saying it trying to convince others of it. I think what 99.9% of heterosexual women want is a "good man". Which is vastly different from "nice guy" or "bad boy". But a good man, is hard to find....as the saying (or was that in a song?) goes.
start-fresh Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Perfect words to describe it. I had an ex boyfriend who was the devil in sheep's clothing lol. We were friends for a long while, and I thought he was one of the nicest, funniest, smartest, "honest" guys I knew back then. But when we started dating, bits and pieces of his real self came into light. BUt then I'd tell myself, no way, "albert" is so nice and honest, he would never do such a thing...Low and behold, in the end he turned out to be a manipulative, lying, scheming, @-hole. I dumped his sorry butt and never looked back. So yeah....this is one of the reasons why I'm not quick to judge anymore. First impressions aren't always right,... but they usually are though...whatever lol He probably wanted to get in your pants the whole time you were "friends." Just sayin'
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