Emmortal Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I want to be with her so badly it hurts but there's also that part of me that says there's no way we can work, we really did try to make it. Here's a link to the most recent events if you're interested When we were together emotions always seemed to run really really high. She wears her heart on her sleeve and doesn't understand those that don't (i.e. me). She also tried to change me in ways that I wasn't ready to or willing to change. I never felt that she loved me just for being me, there was always something that was never quite right for her. She's extremely needy, somewhat controlling, very manipulative and from some reading I've been doing lately I think borderline narcissistic. On the other hand she can be generous to a fault, loves with everything she has and jumps in with both feet no matter what. She has a vulnerability that, though she rarely shows it, I always saw, she can be sweet and charming and damn it I just love her to death. I just so don't know what to do. My heart wants to be with her but my head says it's just not going to work. I know there are very good reasons not to try but I am in love with her, and love just doesn't seem that interested in reason. I could really use some advice or at least a good shoulder.
samspade Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 She also tried to change me in ways that I wasn't ready to or willing to change. I never felt that she loved me just for being me, there was always something that was never quite right for her. She's extremely needy, somewhat controlling, very manipulative and from some reading I've been doing lately I think borderline narcissistic. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. You can find a nice, pretty girl without all these flaws. You just have one-itis right now; you think she's the only one you can have. Get out there and meet some new chicks.
merrilyE Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Sometimes the hardest thing to follow is your heart. I think deep down you know what is right for you. You obviously think there may be a chance or hope that it will work so why not try? Life is too short to look back and regret never trying. Anyways, real love does not come around every day. Also, the notion that you can find a 'normal' girl is a flawed one IMHO, because let's be honest, when you leave one person, your just trading them for someone else's flaws. So really think hard and long cause the opportunity to love her may never come along again.
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