roxyness Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 he leaves you but is still in love with you and values your friendship, yet gives you the cold shoulder when you're around him, can't look you in the eyes at all, and barely conversates when you're hanging out with each other.. i have to initiate it all. but when you were together, did all of these things.. and then, suddenly, he leaves you, still wants to be friends, but doesn't make an effort to really do so unless it's over the computer. he looks like he's holding back a lot, too.. and at prom yesterday, we were slow dancing.. couldn't look me in the eyes, and he had his face in a way that he looked like he was going cry.. is he just too hurt? is he hiding his feelings? he didn't leave me over anything too bad, and he does make impulsive decisions when he's feeling overwhelmed (i may have overwhelmed him when i was pouring out my heart to him about my feelings of my personal social anxieties issues which was when he broke up with me) i really want to be his friend because our love is mutual and i just feel.. have a gut feeling that this was very impulsive and he needs time and a worthy friend to help him sort his thoughts out.. i got one of his good, and older (and was married) friends to speak to him (we're 18, his friend is 24) and see if maybe he could influence him in anyway (my ex bf tends to listen to older folks who have had experiences). this isn't like him, you know? we were so happy three days ago, hugging me, kissing me, always telling me how happy he was that he took me back.. ..but what gives? what should i do?
JustLooking123 Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 What makes you think he is still in love with you? His behavior suggests the opposite. Actions > words. Leave him alone. He left you. Move on.
sugarmomma Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Why would you want to be with someone who broke up with you and hurt you? That is not Love!! Sounds more like contempt. He is messing with your head and you are letting him. Move on. Work on your self esteem before getting in another relationship. btw the word is converse not conversate.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 It means he broke up with you and is withdrawing in degrees. Best to walk away before this strips away any more of your heart.
fabulous_chk Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Means he cheated on you, still hangs out with you because of guilt and nostalgia, but wants to be with the other girl. How do I know....ex-bf exhibited same behavior.
lofi_tokyo Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Means he cheated on you, still hangs out with you because of guilt and nostalgia, but wants to be with the other girl. How do I know....ex-bf exhibited same behavior. ^^^^^^^^ Same goes for me! My ex cheated on me emotionally and it brought our relationship to an end. When he broke up - the last time I saw him - he kissed me and told me he loved me. I asked him if he really meant that, and he said yes he did. Hours before this he had been crying his eyes out, as had I. Though many LS'ers may say he did not really mean what he said, I do believe he meant it when he said he loved me. But that does not, and I repeat it DOES NOT change the reality of your situation. If your ex is not with you, then perhaps he does love you in some way, but he does not want to be with you. Maybe part of him does, but the larger part does not. If he is interested in another woman, you need to start letting yourself move on as soon as possible, and stop asking yourself what it all means. If you keep asking questions you'll find two things: a) you're looking for a specific answer, which most LS'ers will not give in good conscience, and b) questions won't bring him back. I know I sound harsh, but I had to be this harsh with myself in order to move on. If it is any condolances, in my situation, my ex is now happily dating the woman he cheated on me with - they have been together 10+ months. I have moved on. I talk to my ex through e-mails on an irregular basis, just to keep in touch, but as far as I can tell, the romantic ties between us are gone. That may sound catastrophic, but the reality is, it is not. I am as happy now as I ever was, if not happier. The same, I am sure, will be the case for you, someday.
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