broken_promises Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I really am struggling because my boyfriend and I are starting to talk about breaking up and he is starting to talk a lot with one girl (a crush from high school) on Facebook. How do I give up wanting to be in control? Looking at his history, checking her Facebook public profile, and such just hurts me more... but it makes me feel like I am in control if I know what he is up to. Not to mention, I am so fixated on how they are going to get together as soon as I am gone that I keep forgetting that this is the best thing for me to leave this relationship. I know we are ending soon enough, so why can't I just stay disconnected from it and not care that he is talking to her? Why do I need to know!?! It's not like I think we are going to make it past our issues or need to know that he is cheating on me so I can confront him... it just serves to upset me. And then I go into psycho-girlfriend mode of wanting to email her and tell her to stop doing this or going off on him about it. And I really don't want to do that. I want to leave on my terms and look like the stronger person. Any thoughts on how NOT to care with a soon-to-be ex-boyfriend is doing to set up a new girl for once you are gone? Any ideas on how to stop thinking about what they are going to do together once I'm gone? Thanks.
bubbles5 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Its obvious that you love him a lot n thats why u feel insecured but I would suggest join some hobby class or involve yourself into activities keep yourself busy , and just accept it the moment you make up your mind and heart things will be easier , its you who has to decide whether you want to be with a boyfriend who cheats on you or move on and have a better life. Its difficult in intitial stages but you have to keep tryng trying n trying.....
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