iNdespaiR Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 thats what happened.. im so down right now and i felt lost at the moment..dont know what to do.. we are miles away right now and before he left the country he knew that i was pregnant then.. but some petty thing came up, became an argument and he decided to call it quits.. he never said that he is willing to support me financially but he said that he want to get my baby after i gave birth.. that thing hurt me a lot and made me cry all the time.. it was not a good idea and he said that he doesnt want any chances of having me back, and his descision is final.. i dont know if i have to hold on or simply let him go which i think for me is so unfair.. guys i really appreciate if you could give me some advise on it.. thank you..
if only Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 hay hun im going through the same thing as you right now and im 5 mo pregnant. the thing about this is mens will always be like that and if he doesnt want you then you dont need him. My opinion is to be strong for your baby. theres lots of single mother out there and they are perfectly fine. i know its hard to say then done cuz everyday i still wish i was with my man but why we have to think like that when there the one who dont want nothing to do with us. just stay focuse on your baby and if hes ever gana be a man and stick up for this then he will eventuly be there. if not then hes not worth it. stay strong! things will eventuly work it self out. remember things always happends for a reason.
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 i really appreciate your reply.. its so hard for me to move on.. but i have to do it.. yes its true i have to focus on my baby.. actually its my 2nd child i am a single mom to my 8 yr old daughter.. my relationship with my ex (the father of my coming 2nd child) was really smooth and we were happy until he left the country for his work.. he could'nt understand me, my mood swings my bein emotional.. and ive done everything to fix everything up.. i said sorry, even beg for him.. but he refused to accept it.. right now, ive decided not to contact him anymore. anyways, he knew that i was pregnant and its his child.. i keep praying and all i do is ask for strength.. it is really hard what i am goin through.. i know it will all get better in time.. same to you.. may you gain more strength and be strong.. i believe this happens for a purpose. i dont wanna be a bitter on this.. thank you..
dont_understand Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 iNdespair, you weren't kidding. Our situations are very similar. My boyfriend/ex-boyfriend keeps doing the flip flop. Last night he was sitting here crying like a weak boy telling me he just doesn't want to be a dad, I wish I wish, etc...I told him shoulda, coulda, woulda...but didn't. Stop telling me what you wish for and what you want because it's not going to change anything. This is the reality of the situation and it has to be dealt with. Sure, I keep thinking about what if he walks away completely. Single mom with two kids, two different fathers, scary right? But when I think about holding this little baby in my arms all my fear disappears. Children are blessing from god. I believe that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON...good, bad...those things we can't even begin to understand. There is a perfect plan for everyone. Find comfort in that, and you will be strong.
Author iNdespaiR Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 yah 2 kids different dads, and a single mom.. well for me it really doesnt matter.. for my case i am assuming that he walked out completely, coz if he's man enough, whatever argument even storm came in our way he would'nt give up just like that.. he made our situation worse and made an easy escape to his obligation.. and would you believe he's the one who is angry with me.. i mean, though ive done wrong, its just a small thing, i said sorry for that.. eaten my pride even cried on him over the phone (we are on different countries) and the issue here is his obligation to me and to the child.. i am moving on, crying helps me a lot although not healthy in my situation, but i know i can get over with it.. i am quite thankful that he had the guts to leave me this soon and not keepin me hanging up.. our situation is still open ended but i dont wanna give my self false hopes that he's comin back, cause it hurts me hundred times to think that way but actually wont really happens.. i know in time everything will be fine, me, my two kids and live a normal life.. i am a fighter, ang i can handle my situation and i hope that my descision were all right.. although, deep in my heart there is a wound that i am not sure if is goin to be heal..
Author iNdespaiR Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 i gave birth to my baby 2 mos ago.. the baby got a congenital problem, so bad, its meningoencephalocele, a rare disease wherein a growth on top of the baby's head is very huge.. the doctor gave me very small chance of survival, but a miracle happened the baby survived.. the father of the baby, my ex bf didnt reconcile with me, only supported us on financial matters (he spent close to million bucks for the operations).. the worst is, they got the baby.. after we are discharged they got the baby since i dont have any financial sources to support her.. the sad thing is, he already left me while im pregnant, i carried the baby with knowing that she has a big problem ( the congenital defect), and after all those sacrifices, he has winned over the battle cause he got my baby away from me.. imagine how worst the situation became.. its just that the luck isn't mine.. i dont know how to explain but, i think i dont have to be bitter, since my baby is still alive although away from me.. why does a bad guy, like him exist.. how i wish the world will still turn upside down for me.. im feelin sorry for myself..
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