sparkey64 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Im separated almost a year. I started dating a younger coworker who was just out of a relationship. We went out a few times 4-5 times mostly after work. Ended up necking a few times... nothing too serious (never had sex). it went so far as I bought her some vic secret langeri at her request when I was on a trip, and she gave me her phone number. I never called her on it. I really like her but pretty much knew not much would come of it. I asked her out more than once and she stood me up once, but apologized profusely, and the other time it wasn't so concrete so I didnt worry about it too much. The last time we were together about 6 weeks ago. While necking on her couch I asked her if we were bf/gf she said no. So I left it at that, and went in a different direction. I quit chasing her, and dated other women. I pretty much didnt see her a lot, at work. But asked her out for coffee about 3 weeks back. We went out and she proceded to trash all my friends... how they treat their girlfriends and one guy's character. Called him a woman and stuff. I know a few of my buddies don't speak highly of their gfs sometimes when out drinking with the boys (they aren't cheating on them) and I said, well I realize that but don't paint me in the same light. I never trash my ex or anything. She said I was cool, but the guys I hang with are losers (so whats that say about how she feels about me) and these guys are respected execs. So after that, i avoided her. And now she turns her head the other direction when passing my office, and doestn't talk to me at all. She is almost hostile I just noticed today she removed me from her facebook. I don't get it. I mean for the most part I think she is cool, albeit a bit messed from her previous relationship. But this hostility is getting tired. We have to work together. I confronted her two weeks ago, she said she just has a lot of issues at home. And is having difficulty holding herself together. whatever... how do I deal with this woman? any advice? avoidance comes to mind. But maybe Im mistaken, or dilusional. the reality is that i do like her. If I didnt her actions wouldn't matter.
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