colosseum Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Admittedly, I speak from not a lot of experience. Ladies, how important is it that you reach climax with the man you're with? If he doesn't make it happen, then do you drop him? I know it takes a much longer time for women to reach climax, but I've also heard that it's more often the case that women won't reach it at all. How often do you reach it, and how important is it? Oh, and let's assume the guy is trying and is not just a selfish prick.
worldwide Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 personally, not reaching climax during sex is not really a deal breaker for me in a relationship coz i'm not in a relationship just mainly because of that anyway. but of course it would be nice if we get some once in a while lol.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Well, if it's me we're talking about, that would be a problem, since I cum easily. If I had a hard time cumming, he was trying, and it wasn't happening, I wouldn't dump him for that.
babydreamer Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 No, not at all.. as long as he loves me. When we have passionate sex, then... that would be the last thing on my mind!
BlueHarvest Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Quick interjection here... I'm more......orally fixated upon women when it comes to sex and pleasing them. Would most women feel ok with that or do you still want to be brought to climax the more traditional way?
loveslife Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I think a lot depends on the age of the woman. Many women don't have orgasms in, say, their early 20s. There's a whole emotional component. Feeling self-conscious among other things. Once a woman starts having orgasms as long as the guy is trying I think it's just gonna happen naturally.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Well, if it's an "all the time thing", it's a problem. If it's a "once in awhile thing", it's not. Sometimes I just like the physcial stuff even if I don't reach the finish line. Sometimes it can be a turn off if a guy is too focused on you finishing and asks you the cring worthy quesiton "did you c*m". I will add though that's been medically proven that women that orgasm with their partner feel a deeper bond then ones that don't! Probably one reason why men in relationships are concerned about her finishing.
Tizzy Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Climaxing with my man is important for me. I climax pretty quickly and expect to climax every time I have sex (I've learned what feels good to me :-) If my guy finishes before me and doesn't let me "get mine" I get pissed. It's okay if this happens some of the time, but if it becomes a recurring theme we'll have problems. Luckily though, I've never had this problem :-)
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Quick interjection here... I'm more......orally fixated upon women when it comes to sex and pleasing them. Would most women feel ok with that or do you still want to be brought to climax the more traditional way? What, exactly, is the "traditional way?" If you mean intercourse with zero clitoral stimulation, you realize that like only 1/3 of women can do that, right? Anyway - in regards to the OP - I have a difficult time reaching climax. I don't really care if I reach it during sex. LOL That might sound weird, but I've gotten used to my solo time and I enjoy it.
Peaceandlove Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 If he doesn't make it happen, then do you drop him? Why is the guy solely responsible for your orgasm? How about knowing what gets you there and guiding him- unless there is an emotional connection lacking which prevents you from climaxing
start-fresh Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Why is the guy solely responsible for your orgasm? How about knowing what gets you there and guiding him- unless there is an emotional connection lacking which prevents you from climaxing How about you aren't so quick to attack someone and just leave the question up to women who want to give honest feedback? I don't think HE will be guiding any men in the bedroom any time soon.
Peaceandlove Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 How about you aren't so quick to attack someone and just leave the question up to women who want to give honest feedback? I don't think HE will be guiding any men in the bedroom any time soon. amistad i don't get your comment
Jersey Shortie Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I'm more......orally fixated upon women when it comes to sex and pleasing them. Would most women feel ok with that or do you still want to be brought to climax the more traditional way? I kind of feel like this is selfish of you. In one regard, sure you want to make her climax and that's great. But sometimes a man's desire to make a woman climax has to do with his own ego more then it does really wanting to bring her pleasure. I am not saying that is you, but you want it done *your way* and it would be off putting to me if a man said he only ever was more interested in making me finish through oral. You need to ask the woman what gets her to the finish line. It shouldn't be one way or the other. Maybe she does like to finish with oral, maybe she doesn't. Personally, I never get really excited over recieving oral anyway. I think most guys learn their moves from porn and to be honest, the way they do it in porn isn't really meant to make a woman feel good as it is to put on a fake show. Of course, guys see this screaming woman whithering away and pleasure and think that's the way to do it. Which blows. Not enough guys know how to do it right in my limited experience.
prettybaby Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I really don't mind not reaching climax. Foreplay can get a bit frustrating, but I don't mind having intercourse for 30min straight without climaxing at all. It still feels amazing, whether I climax or not. So that's not the goal. The act in itself is what keeps me going lol
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