tinklebell Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Just met a guy as I was leaving the bar with my friends. He was with his friends. Our eyes met and he seemed like he would have wanted to know me (I could be wrong but just indulge me here) and I would have too, though I'm not sure how my body language came across. Given the circumstances (me with my group of friends and leaving, him and his friends at the table), how could I have made a "move" that would get us to talk to each other or exchange numbers? Smiling would be something but I would think given the situation, it would just have been a smile with no follow up (for reasons explained above). Or should it be that if he was THAT interested, he would still have talked to me even when I was with a big group of friends? Anyone with any insights? For future reference.
Author tinklebell Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 Anyone? Or does it mean that situations like this are just too difficult to do anything about?
xpaperxcutx Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I think if a guy is interested enough, he wouldn't care if you were with your friends.
WTRanger Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Define your group of friends, were you with all girls? Because a guy (excluding the overly gelled up, reeking of too much cologne, swears by Axe products, wearing a wool cap inside with overly expensive sunglasses at night bar douche) can be kind of intimidated by a pack of girls at a bar. Even if the group was mixed company it can feel awkward to approach one person and small talk because it feels as if every eye is on you and you know once you leave you are going to get completely analyzed and raked over the coals. If you see him again and you really are interested you might have to make the move. See if you can pick him off when he's outside of the group, ie coming back from the bathroom. He could just be shy and you might have to take the initial effort. Coming from a guy, sometimes it's nice when we don't always have to do all the initial work.
Author tinklebell Posted May 24, 2009 Author Posted May 24, 2009 Define your group of friends, were you with all girls? Because a guy (excluding the overly gelled up, reeking of too much cologne, swears by Axe products, wearing a wool cap inside with overly expensive sunglasses at night bar douche) can be kind of intimidated by a pack of girls at a bar. Even if the group was mixed company it can feel awkward to approach one person and small talk because it feels as if every eye is on you and you know once you leave you are going to get completely analyzed and raked over the coals. If you see him again and you really are interested you might have to make the move. See if you can pick him off when he's outside of the group, ie coming back from the bathroom. He could just be shy and you might have to take the initial effort. Coming from a guy, sometimes it's nice when we don't always have to do all the initial work. Yep, it was an all-girls group. What about what papercut said, about if the guy was that interested, he would still have approached regardless of the crowd I was with? What's your guy view on that?
filh Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 Yep, it was an all-girls group. What about what papercut said, about if the guy was that interested, he would still have approached regardless of the crowd I was with? What's your guy view on that? Um, no. I wouldn't have...
MissViolet Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I would disagree with Papercut. Unless a guy is super super bold, I don't think he would approach a girl in an all-girl group, or unless who knows those other girls then maybe he would be more inclined to approach. If at a club, what I would do is smile at him often, stand slightly a way from my girls as to give him an opportunity, space and some "privacy" for him to approach me; or maybe go to the washroom and cross his path; or even take a break by yourself and watch people dance, if he sees you're alone then he'll probably approach you if he's interested.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 I've heard endless gripes from guys about not feeling comfortable approaching a girl in a big group of girls. I think if you had been staying, a good idea would have been to temporarily separate yourself to make it easier for him...while at the same time giving eye contact and smiling. Like for instance, if there was a dance floor and your friends were there - go to the bar alone and order a drink.
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