Bells Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Okay, this woman asked me about my online dating situation with women, and I told her.....her response was this: I apologize on behalf of all the women that kinda "jerked" you around on the dating thing, it sounds like some of these women suffered from a lack of maturity & some rudeness was involved there. You cant take that stuff personal, some people just "don't click/connect"..It's a "chemistry" thing. Okay, I was okay with the first statement, but then she made the follow-up statement: You cant take that stuff personal, some people just "don't click/connect"..It's a "chemistry" thing. I am failing to the connection she is trying to make with THIS sentence and then the prior sentence. Like she's trying to tie the two together I didn't get it until I read it about the 3rd time (knowing how subtle women can be with their comments, you sometimes have to re-read what they say) But it sounds like.....now this is just me....that she's justifying the rude behavior with there being no chemistry? They just seem contradictory, right? Women that suffer the lack of maturity on their part, is really all about the lack of chemistry they are feeling on their part as well?
motive2002 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I am of the theory that the more people talk, the less they actually know what they are talking about. (myself included) I'm slowly learning to take only half of what women say seriously. They just love to talk to hear themselves talk.. and whatever they say today, they might not feel the same way about tomorrow. I guess the same could be said for men.. but we're not usually as chatty. On another note.. if some chick disses you.. pull up bait and move on.... and yeah, don't take it personal. That's actually good advice
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I cannot believe that when she asked you that question that you actually responded to her with your negative experiences or the perceived negative experiences you have had with online dating. Dude.......
Author Bells Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 I cannot believe that when she asked you that question that you actually responded to her with your negative experiences or the perceived negative experiences you have had with online dating. Dude....... Hey, she asked...so I told. To me, there no positive or negative experiences. Just experiences. "Dude" On another note.. if some chick disses you.. pull up bait and move on.... and yeah, don't take it personal. That's actually good advice That I did agree on....but again...the latter statement? I was unclear on what that had to do with the price of tea in China.
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Hey, she asked...so I told. To me, there no positive or negative experiences. Just experiences. When someone asks you at work first thing in the day " How are you doing today ?".. Do you tell them ? or do you just say fine ? If you tell them how your are really doing they would sit there with a blank stare on their face and think "WTF ?".. that is why we all just say fine.. It is about pleasantries and isn't about blowing off steam.. When she asked you about your dating experiences I can pretty well guarantee you that she wasn't expecting your response.. Did you get a date with her ?
Author Bells Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 When someone asks you at work first thing in the day " How are you doing today ?".. Do you tell them ? or do you just say fine ? If you tell them how your are really doing they would sit there with a blank stare on their face and think "WTF ?".. that is why we all just say fine.. It is about pleasantries and isn't about blowing off steam.. When she asked you about your dating experiences I can pretty well guarantee you that she wasn't expecting your response.. Did you get a date with her ? Wasn't trying to get a date with her. And you can't compare "how was your day?" to, "So, Bells, tell me about your recent history with women" Which means she wanted details
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Wasn't trying to get a date with her. I guess that is a "no" then Hey.. if what you are doing is working then by all means keep doing it..
Author Bells Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 I guess that is a "no" then Hey.. if what you are doing is working then by all means keep doing it.. Yepper yepper.....indeed!
CommitmentPhobe Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 that is why we all just say fine.. In the US. Bells might have some Italian blood running through him
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