bhweller Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Has anyone experienced Self Hate ? If so, how did you deal with it ?
hanna1973 Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 i hate myself because im my own worst enemy when it comes to relationships. iv have lots of male friends more so than female, i get on better with men, but when it comes to a boyfriend im completely different, and i always **** it up!! i ended up going to councelling. i go once a week lol best thing is to ask for help i guess from a professional. as i find that most people close to you, dont really care that much, they have their own problems. either that or sit at home in self hatred/pity, been there done that, gets ya nowhere.
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 I don't know thats its self-hate but I have had times of really disliking himself. When I suffered with anxiety and depression I went from hating others to hating myself. I had issues accepting myself. There were things about myself I didn't like but didn't know how cope with i.e. my negative outlook, and because I couldn't cope and didn't know how to change myself (I still don't fully) it became self-hatred. Usually I think it comes about when there's something about yourself that you can't understand and can't cope with - so all you know how to do is hate yourself. Then you feel guilty....and the guilt becomes just more self-hate. Its like a vicious cycle. I guess we all need to learn to be kind to ourselves and accepting of ourselves.
blinded Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 I don't know thats its self-hate but I have had times of really disliking himself. When I suffered with anxiety and depression I went from hating others to hating myself. I had issues accepting myself. There were things about myself I didn't like but didn't know how cope with i.e. my negative outlook, and because I couldn't cope and didn't know how to change myself (I still don't fully) it became self-hatred. Usually I think it comes about when there's something about yourself that you can't understand and can't cope with - so all you know how to do is hate yourself. Then you feel guilty....and the guilt becomes just more self-hate. Its like a vicious cycle. I guess we all need to learn to be kind to ourselves and accepting of ourselves. This describes how I feel. It's a terrible feeling because I take my frustration out on my family and friends. I have been looking into taking some St John's wort to try and alleviate the symptoms. Anyone have any success w/that? I want to try and deal w/this before it gets worse.
Mike86 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Sometimes I have embarassing memories that seem to haunt me even though no else remembers them or cares. At times it gets to the point where I punch myself in the arms or I'll shout obscenities like I have tourettes or something. It only happens when I'm alone for some reason. I guess when I'm around other people I'm too self concious.
griffinchicken53 Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 it is a constant struggle for me. one aspect is how i think people see me. i self hate because i think people don't like me, and i'm not worthy. i see people hanging out and i don't get invited, and i hate myself for not being the kind of person they would think to invite out. every now and then it seems to be easier, but i think on some level i find some reason to always hate myself. and i too have random embarrassing memories pop into my head. makes me less likely to try some things again.
dutchie Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 I struggle with this too. I have been seeing a counselor and working at it, but it seems to be a slow process. It is affecting my relationships and my personal success. Right now, I feel kind of stuck... Honestly it seems to go in cycles for me, as I have struggled with confidence/esteem issues as long as I can remember. I can't offer any real advice other than go to therapy if you can and keep trying to be good to yourself. Reading this thread though, did make me feel a little less alone in this, so that is good.
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