Ms.Bunny Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I have been "talking" to this guy for about 3 weeks now. We have an age difference of 6 years. I'm 29,he's 23 We went out a few times and I broke the rule of being intimate too quickly with him, but I don't regret it. I just didn't think that him and I would progress, mainly because of the age difference. I thought he would be more someone, to hang out and have fun with. He is also very attractive and I guess I assumed that he dates alot, and probably didn't want anything serious. We text alot, but I have NEVER called him. A few days ago, he made a comment, about being able to use my phone for purposes, other than texting. Basically hinting that I should actually call him sometime. Last night we went out and he said "We are just hanging out, right? Because I know you said if you were going to be serious with a guy, he would be closer to your age" I had forgotten that I did tell him that when I first met him. I do like him and now regret saying that. I would like to know if there is a possibility something could happen between us, but I don't want to be the one to say it. So I'm reading into things to see if that is what he wants. Should I bring it up? Or just go with the flow?
paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Just say (with a cheeky smile on your face) 'you know when I said I like guys closer to my own age, I think I've changed my mind about that one' and let him take it from there, sounds to me like he likes you, but is afraid to make a move, so if you want him, flirt a little more and throw in some subtle hints that lead him to believe that you wouldn't reject him if he made a move.
Jilly Bean Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 He sounds into you, yes, but also that you put him off with your comment that he was not viable, since he was too young. If you've had a change of heart, then tell him you said that before you got to know him a bit.
BCCA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 tell him he will just have to wait and see If a woman said that to me, that would be the absolute last conversation we ever had. That is a total game, and does not relay any information at all. Furthermore, it sounds like youre basically saying 'I'll let you know', which is BS. Relationships are formed between two people, not when and if one person feels like it. If you want to date him seriously, just tell him you want something exlcusive, or ask what he wants. Just be upfront and honest about everything, so that everyone knows whats going on. No one wants to 'wait and see', and 90% of guys are going to bail as soon as you say something like that.
Kamille Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Kind of going along the lines of BCCA, but perhaps in a more flirty light-hearted way, that doesn't bring on the commitment conversation (sounds to early anyway): tell him, with a flirty smile on your face that he's making you reevaluate your policy on getting serious with younger guys.
Trialbyfire Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Yes, what's more flattering than telling someone they're the ones who made you change your mind? Imagine a gay man telling a woman, she's the one who made him straight.
BCCA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Kind of going along the lines of BCCA, but perhaps in a more flirty light-hearted way, that doesn't bring on the commitment conversation (sounds to early anyway): tell him, with a flirty smile on your face that he's making you reevaluate your policy on getting serious with younger guys. I like it! Perfect! And I agree, TBF, that would make me feel pretty darn good
Chicago_Guy Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 You mentioned that you have never called him. Has he left messages on your voicemail/answering machine in the past and you never returned his call? If so, this guy probably thinks you are a player and aren't that into him, especially if you already mentioned that you had an issue with the age difference.
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