Odyssey Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 My ex girlfriend and i broke up a month ago, at the same time that i got laid off from work. I have been trying to stay away from her as best I can - it's tough, but 2 weeks of true NC so far. We both work in the same office together (i know, lesson learned now). It has been hell seeing her everyday because my company won't let me take garden-leave. Instead, I'm having to work my notice off - only 1 week left and counting... Well, next Friday night is my leaving party and she's going to be there. How should I act? Should i feel obligated to break NC, be social and talk to her? Just need some advice.
huck Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Hi Odyssey. Was the break up mutual ?? Personally if id just broken up with someone - I wouldnt want to go to their leaving party - it would be a bit awkward.. In the same situation as you as far as working in the same building as my ex... Lesson learned for the future.. Huck
Author Odyssey Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 We were going solid for 6 months, then I recently found out she'd been in contact with her abusive ex-boyfriend. She began becoming more and more distant from me. She would lie to me that there was nothing wrong, and I got upset with her immature behavior. Then she broke up with me by giving me the silent treatment for days. But she eventually told me the truth after I persisted to the point of nagging. She's still in love with her ex-boyfriend. Mutual breakup? Not to me it wasn't. Any suggestions for next Friday?
lovelinefan Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I would say it's very likely that she won't be there. If she is, she'll probably stay quiet and to herself. If the party is being thrown for you, then don't make it about her in your head - go, have a good time, ignore her if that's what feels right.
Author Odyssey Posted May 30, 2009 Author Posted May 30, 2009 Just an update folks on the party. The evening was going great and just when i thought my ex-girlfriend wouldn't show, she walked in (i gotta say, she made a lot of effort & looked so hot). Man, all kinds of conflicting emotions flooded me at once, a part of me still resented her for dumping me, but also miss her and wanted to know if she was OK. We both smiled and said hello to each other (damn, it was painful). Then I bolted and had to go the toilets just so i can gather my thoughts together and not get emotional about it. For the rest of the night, i ignored her and she did the same to me. I eventually opened up after many drinks and had a great time. She left early without saying goodbye to me or the colleagues that she was friends with, for the sole reason that i was talking to them at the time (immature?) Looking back on last night, i'm glad i got through it 'cause it was tough seeing her. I can't help but wonder why she came to my leaving party? Hey does it still count as NC since we didn't talk the entire time, but just greeted each other? Or am i back to square one?!?
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