Haruka Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 This week it has been bad. I went to his place with my dog, everything seemed to be going fine until we went to have sex. I told him no I didn't want anal sex, he got into a huff and said he didn't want me to touch his penis in future (okay weirdo). During the week things went from bad to worse, I have now got the nagging habit and always go "Justin....blah blah blah" Justin told me he found it really irritating and to please just stop. I wasn't focusing much this week as I have a lot on my mind and he was muttering to himself about me not listening to him and him always repeating himself to me. He down right said I was useless. For two nights we slept in seperate rooms, one was me watching tv on the day bed and falling a sleep the next night he sleep in the bed cause I was snoring. The last night I slept at his place, it was almost three in the morning and I said "It's time for bed. Get off the poker site." He looked at me and snorted "Your not my mom, stop telling me what to do." Under his breath he muttered "And you think I'm weird." During when we were asleep my dog pooped at the backdoor cause he couldn't get out. Justin woke up, grumbled and scolded my dog and cleaned up the poop and scrubbed the carpet. Muttering scornful words about me and my dog. (He normally loves my dog) Today I was supposed to pick him up to go to the next town to the doctors, I thought I run an errand and get gas before coming to pick him up. When I got to his place, his parents were at the house cleaning up for a big party. His dad was actually in the front yard prunning plants. He went inside and didn't bother coming to me to say that Justin already left and was going to pick me up. I got home deflated and found out he called after I went into town, my mom was on the phone to her sister and heard the call coming through but didn't bother hanging up to answer it and calling her sister back. So I missed him altogether he hasn't called me since so it makes me wonder. :Side Note: I think it is time to have a break from him, I love him with all my heart, it's just I feel like I'm the nagging mom and lately my libido is pretty low. Early on in our relationship it was HIGH but now I can't get in the mood. I guess I am also getting depressed that he is spending his spare moments yet again on online poker and staying up to 3 almost 5 in the morning. I knew once he got the internet reconnected that he will just sit there playing it. I need to feel loved, and be romanced and to have attention from him and not just from sex. I imagined when I had a boyfriend that he will woo me with romance (not every single minute of the day), that he will surprise me with gifts (I have to hound to get a birthday gift, not once got a V day gift or acknowledged the day). And I could happily say to my friends that I was making love instead of just muttering that we had hardcore sex and took pics of my anus and vagina. Finally to hear him say he loves me instead of "I love your arse it is so tight". I am off for 12 nights on holiday by myself to go through this. I know I am immature but I need to grow up and if I have to suspend the relationship with not contacting him during that period then so be it.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 You love a man that tells you you are useless and actually as the nerve to get mad if you don't want anal sex? WTF. Come on. You got to realize that you can do better then that. This guy is an asshat.
Author Haruka Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 You love a man that tells you you are useless and actually as the nerve to get mad if you don't want anal sex? WTF. Come on. You got to realize that you can do better then that. This guy is an asshat. I live in a small community, it is slim pickings when it comes to single guys. The guy is my only boyfriend and I have been with him for almost four years. Hence loving the guy. I feel that I have grown a bit since I met him and it's just been the past three months that I have had second thoughts on the relationship. There is good days and bad days. Lately the bad days are out weighing the good. Which has led me to think it over. I need someone more romantic, I mean I am jealous of my friend's own relationship cause she has fully moved in with her boyfriend and he romantic towards her and their been dating for two years. Unlike me four and still living seperatly from Justin. This wasn't the way I imagined it and hence when I am with my friend I am cold when it comes to her relationship and speak harsh truths to her. Back to me and Justin, well it seems that I need to find happiness and be at peace with myself.
stillafool Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 This guy has absolutely NO RESPECT for you. He is treating you like a piece of s--t and you need to kick him so hard to the curb it breaks his arse. I don't care if there are "slim pickings" in your town. Is having a man worth being treated this way? If you want to be romanced leave this guy and the next one you get put yourself on a higher level. You will get romanced if you hold out and demand respect.
Author Haruka Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 Thanks guys, as I said I am going to be way for 12 nights so I will be thinking long and hard. Right now I am making mental notes. I need happiness and love. Your right I am never gonna get it from this guy.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I live in a small community, it is slim pickings when it comes to single guys. The guy is my only boyfriend and I have been with him for almost four years. Hence loving the guy. Better four years and over then 5 years and over or 6 or 7 or 8. It doesn't matter if the pickings are slim in your community. There will eventually be another man in your life if you put the effort into it. Please don't stay with this man. I rarely give that type of advice but anyone that tells you you are useless as a human being needs to get axed. That boy is not going to al lthe sudden change. Sorry. Which has led me to think it over. I need someone more romantic, I mean I am jealous of my friend's own relationship cause she has fully moved in with her boyfriend and he romantic towards her and their been dating for two years. Unlike me four and still living seperatly from Justin. This wasn't the way I imagined it and hence when I am with my friend I am cold when it comes to her relationship and speak harsh truths to her. You need to stop being self indulgent and start being a friend. It's not her fault you made the choices you did or her fault that Justin is not an ideal boyfriend. If she was your friend for real, you wouldn't diss her like that.
AAlike Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I feel that I have grown a bit since I met him and it's just been the past three months that I have had second thoughts on the relationship. There is good days and bad days. Lately the bad days are out weighing the good. Which has led me to think it over. I need someone more romantic, I mean I am jealous of my friend's own relationship cause she has fully moved in with her boyfriend and he romantic towards her and their been dating for two years. Unlike me four and still living seperatly from Justin. This wasn't the way I imagined it and hence when I am with my friend I am cold when it comes to her relationship and speak harsh truths to her. I dunno if that's really the entire problem...I mean, lack of romance is common with guys and is easily fixable - lack of respect is an entirely different matter. I am certainly not what you'd call a conventional romantic (don't get me wrong, I am quite caring, I'm just not mushy) - but yet I'd never forget a dang valentine's day or birthday gift!! that's just blatant disregard.
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