paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 had a date tonight with a no real spark there for me guy, but he was nice enough that I decided to see him again, this next meet up was enthusiastically arranged by him. Not much word from him about it over the last week, finally today I emailed (thinking 'sigh, I don't want to have to chase this guy', told him that I was going to the event as planned and asked was he still coming and he replied: 'I will decide spontaneously whether to go or not, I'm going to go to another thing with friends later, but maybe I'll meet you there beforehand if I've time'. I'm sitting here typing this and laughing. This was obviously a) not a date as I thought, just 'hanging out' and b) nice of him to tell me that he might not turn up, but only after I emailed. Lol Just as well I wasn't totally into the guy or I would have spent the whole evening looking at the door to see if he was going to arrive only to go home feeling disappointed. Hope he doesn't bother turning up now, what's the point?! Guess he didn't feel the spark either, so it's all for the best.
Author paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 aw crap, just got an email now saying that he might turn up after all...
loveslife Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Hahaha this guy sounds like a flake. Good thing you're not into him. Maybe you can email back saying you made other arrangements since he wasn't sure, so you guys should plan to meet up some other time.
Chinook Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Its Friday, you're his last option and he's not secured any other deal. Sorry but he's more than a flake, you're on the road to being back-burner bear.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I swear, people do not now how to act or treat others now-a-days.
OpenBook Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I'd totally mess with his head. Tell him you'll meet him somewhere - "I'll try to be there at 9:00" - and then don't show up at all. And don't answer his phone calls or emails after that. He threw the first punch. He needs to be dropped on his @ss like a hot potato.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Did you ever think he's picking up on your own flakiness that's he's being flaky himself??? Some men can read body language and guage the woman's interest in him. If your not interested in him, why should he try??? I mean come on. Stop playing games. And not all relationships have the spark up front, sometimes the spark grows, dont forget that.
Author paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 Did you ever think he's picking up on your own flakiness that's he's being flaky himself??? Some men can read body language and guage the woman's interest in him. If your not interested in him, why should he try??? I mean come on. Stop playing games. And not all relationships have the spark up front, sometimes the spark grows, dont forget that. This is entirely possible - the body language thing, he's not feeling it, so wasn't that pushed. I'm not playing games though, as you said, sometimes the spark grows, hence I thought it would be nice to meet him again as he was an intelligent, funny, nice guy and that something might develop, I wasn't trying to string him along - HE was the one who was all "Oh Paddington Bear let's do this together on Friday 22nd May" and then 'might' turn up or not as the mood takes him.
Author paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 ok, he's just changed his mind again, now he's not coming. Definite flakiness!!
loveslife Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 ok, he's just changed his mind again, now he's not coming. Definite flakiness!! Hahahaha I'm sorry for laughing but this is kinda funny! This guy is unreal!! How irritating!!
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 He doesn't sound like a flake to me. Perhaps I'm wrong, but it sounds like you had discussed the fact that you both intended on being at the same event - not going together. That's not a date, or a hang-out even...
Author paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 He doesn't sound like a flake to me. Perhaps I'm wrong, but it sounds like you had discussed the fact that you both intended on being at the same event - not going together. That's not a date, or a hang-out even... I don't know...I mean what is a date? Through chance we were invited to this thing tonight when we first met on what I thought was a date (guy calls asks to meet you, spends the day getting to know you, arranges to meet you again, to me that was a date...unless I've some wrong definition of date in my head) and he was the one to suggest that we go together to this thing tonight. I wasn't necessarily going to go without him... I am now though.
BCCA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I think asking you if you'll be somewhere he would be is kind of a quasi-date. To me, sounds more like a 'if all else fails' kind of thing. And he could be one of the many guys out there thats found that doing this kind of wishy washy stuff plays on certain womens insecurities enough for them to get laid and bail. Not saying its right, but if its working for him, I guess whatever. Just ignore the dude from now on. Waste of time.
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 And he could be one of the many guys out there thats found that doing this kind of wishy washy stuff plays on certain womens insecurities enough for them to get laid and bail. Not saying its right, but if its working for him, I guess whatever. Just ignore the dude from now on. Waste of time. Agreed.
Author paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 ok quasi-date...I'm a bit out of touch!!! All good to know for future! But sorry to be clear, we were asked to this thing and he turned to me and said 'let's go to this together!' (along with many we should do this's together and go to that together...) so it wasn't him asking me if I'll be somewhere, it was him asking me to go with him...or at least that's how I took it. In any case, my heart is not broken, nor is his from the sounds of it! No harm done, onwards and upwards!
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