arthurfl99 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Hi all! Still fairly new to this board but enjoying reading everyone's posts. Wanted to ask everyone's take on this question. Do you find that dreaming ahead of specific things (moving in together, buying a house together, getting a dog) in the future adds more frustration or does it help make things better? What if you have no idea when this would happen, and know it could be many years? what's your take? Thanks!
SophieA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I do think talking about those things helps...especially when you know for a fact WHEN your relationship will no longer be long distance. In my case, 19 months and we will be in the same location. (Hopefully less!) I don't know if I could discuss it if we didn't have that knowledge...I almost think it'd be like torture.
princess4ever Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 i have been thinking the same thing. for me it has been bit of both. somedays i feel so down and get by with dreaming about moving in with my bf, etc and it makes me become happy again and me and my bf often talk about it too. other times, it becomes frustrating and makes us argue b/c we just don't know for sure when our dreams would come.
Author arthurfl99 Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 Princess4ever that's EXACTLY how my girlfriend and I are. You have to talk about it because it gives hope, direction, but on days where you can't quite see how and when it will happen, it brings great frustration. You're not alone!
Island Girl Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 We talk about the future and our plan. The dream helps us to hold on through the time and distance. We have our common goal and that is why we endure this. To get to have that. So it has always been an important part of our LDR and our communication. When we have gone through a bad patch for whatever reason the other brings it up and it helps shake off the funk.
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