trustydusty Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 So it's been one week since i have had contact with my ex. I have had my ups and downs, feelings of loneliness, missing her, and at sometimes in the day I don't think about her at all. But, I had a dream last night that we were gonna go on a weekend date, and it felt so real... NC really does help but it also leaves you wondering and that can be really hard at times. I just wish I knew how she was doin and how she is feeling. But, I gotta stay strong...
ATR Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Congrats for making it one week! Yes, staying strong is so important! Just post here if you ever have the feel to contact her. Good luck, you'll it through these hard times a much stronger person!
cthruyou2 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 So it's been one week since i have had contact with my ex. I have had my ups and downs, feelings of loneliness, missing her, and at sometimes in the day I don't think about her at all. But, I had a dream last night that we were gonna go on a weekend date, and it felt so real... NC really does help but it also leaves you wondering and that can be really hard at times. I just wish I knew how she was doin and how she is feeling. But, I gotta stay strong... Hi TD, don't drive yourself insane, about what she maybe doing, because as used in other posts as well as my first hand experience, it will drive you nuts, put it this way, you trying to figure out what she is doing, is along the same lines of, you guessing the winning lottery numbers, just isn't going to happen, my way of thinking is this, I have about as much control of changing the weather as I do changing her/his mind (Meaning Impossible to do) Not sure if that helped a little? Good luck, soon enough 1 week will be 2 and 3, and absolutely Stay Strong! CTY2
bluewolf17 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Week 1 is somthing to celebrate. I had my 7 day mark yesterday. Today I feel really really good! And although it's hard not to, just push those thoughts of her away. I force myself not to dwell on what he's doing. Because it doesn't matter. It won't change anything. It will get easier, promise!
wow123 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I'm also 1 week nc. Feeling the same as u. Tough not wondering what she's doing but she doesn't care what I'm doing which tells me everything I need to know.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Congratulations! Keep it up guys. I remember my one week. I was still in incredible pain, but now it was long enough ago that I really don't even think about it. I actually had to do some general math the other day to try and figure out the last time I talked to her. It made me laugh at how far I had come. Give it time and keep on moving through life.
Author trustydusty Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 I really appreciate all of the support, it definitely helps to know that others are going through the same thing. I know she will contact me eventually seeing that she has some of my stuff but hopefully it will be so far in the future that it won't bother me when i do see her again. Thanks everyone! and goodluck with everyones situation...
Nedved Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Congrats all on your NC progress. trustydusty i'm in the same situation to you. I'm on day 3 but technically day 6 as she called me wens and i told her not to contact me anymore but i did'nt make contact first which is a miracle because i always running behind her. Got 2 texts off her last night and today and she's really struggling and needs support(very needy person) but i know she dose'nt want me and just wants her security blanket. I d'ont wanna sound bitter but she hurt me bad and treated me like s*** so i'm really getting a little bit of satisfaction out of knowing she's hurting even if its work related and not over me. Its killing me mind not calling her to comfort her but she's made her decision that i was'nt good enough for her so i'm letting her see i won't be used anymore.
cthruyou2 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Congrats all on your NC progress. trustydusty i'm in the same situation to you. I'm on day 3 but technically day 6 as she called me wens and i told her not to contact me anymore but i did'nt make contact first which is a miracle because i always running behind her. Got 2 texts off her last night and today and she's really struggling and needs support(very needy person) but i know she dose'nt want me and just wants her security blanket. I d'ont wanna sound bitter but she hurt me bad and treated me like s*** so i'm really getting a little bit of satisfaction out of knowing she's hurting even if its work related and not over me. Its killing me mind not calling her to comfort her but she's made her decision that i was'nt good enough for her so i'm letting her see i won't be used anymore. Hey Ned, your last paragraph pretty much sums it all....for many....including myself...
Nedved Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 And as you and i know cthruyou2 it hurts so much not getting in contact but what can we do? If we call,text or email we're just gonna be disapointed as the person at the other end of the phone dose'nt see us in the same way they once did and we're back to square one again. Its sads its come to this and i for one never thought i'd have to turn my back on her but i have to leave her life now for my own sanity.
seductress989 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Hey TD, This is the 3rd guy that I've done NC with and each time it seems that it gets a little easier. I am the dumper and it is also my 1st week of NC today. This week has been rough I admit but I have school, work, friends, and hobbies to keep me occupied most of the time. The hardest thing about NC for me has been him contacting with a text or 2 everyday. I still have feelings for him but I have promised myself to do the full 60 days. I feel guilty, pain, and hope all at the same time. I know that after the 2nd week in my past experiences of NC I have been fine. Those first 2 weeks are the hardest and the rest will fly by. Just hang in, it's hard and we're on the journey with you.
seductress989 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I have an idea for all of us doing NC. How about a reward for each week that we make it through NC.............I feel it would make all of us feel better. That's what I am doing tonight, celebrating my success and I hope everyone else does too....!
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