sean22 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 To make a long story short, i went out with this girl who im friends with (or was) ans she broke up with me. Shes also friends with all my mates cos shes in our 'group' kinda thing. Ive been going NC because i really need to get over her, i dont know if it's working, but i havn't spoken to her in about 3 weeks now. Anyways, my problem is my mates want me to come out tonight, but she is going as well cos she is friends with my mates and it doesn't make sense to just not invite one of us because the breakup thing. I'm thinking i should just stay home tonight.. but tomorrow night theres a big party on and shes gonna be there, but i dont want to miss it. I was wondering if anyone has been in this situation before where their ex is in their circle of friends, and they had to see them etc and how they moved on? or any advice would be appreciated. also, should i just ignore her tomorrow night? gah.. i shouldn't have made the mistake of going out with a friend.. oh well, i guess its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, even though i dont know if i loved her yet i guess it still has the same meaning.
Soul Bear Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Bro, Im kind of in your position just now. Only difference is, that my ex initiated NC on me. We share all the same friends and I have not heard from any of them recently. She is with them all now, going to parties and places we used to go together. You are lucky you dont have friends who will take sides, whether its done intentionaly or not, thats what 'our' friends are doing. It sucks, big time. If you want the oportunitie to grow, I suggest you go to that party if you feel strong enough to do so. When my other friend split up with his GF a few years back, it was the same position, one friend would be with them, and one would get the shi*ty end of the stick and have to go somewhere else...infact she moved to another continent to get over him. 15 months later, he begged her back, but by that point she had moved on and had the satisfaction of saying NO!! Dont know if this helps you much, but I DO undrstand completely what your talking about. Its a tough decision to make and I hope you will do whatever you feel you can, and is best for you.
Author sean22 Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 Hey man, thanks for the reply. Its good to hear someone is in the same situation as me, and it does suck aye.. My mates aren't perfect either, they sometimes make unessecary jokes about the relationship and stir things up between me and her. The other night they got drunk and posted on her facebook that i was masturbating over her and other ****. I know there only joking, but sometimes it gets annoying.. although it did make me laugh. I will go that party. I don't plan on losing my friends or missing out on a good time because of her. I guess ill just have to try my hardest to avoid her and pretend shes not there. As for that story we with your friend, i think my ex is completely over me, my mate told me she lost all feelings for me, i don't know but i hope one day i could have that satisfaction.
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