ruggy Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Since I am having zero luck with Match I was thinking about giving Lavalife a try. Anyone have any success with it?
BCCA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Bro, you should let someone look over your profile, and find some honest women to critique your pics. Think of it like advertising, because it essentially is. While being witty and confident in your email is great, if your pic is terrible, youre screwed. And on top of that, if your profile seems boring, you can also forget about it. My sister was looking at profiles on Match and telling me how absolutely terrible some were, and when I looked they didnt seem all that bad. Have a woman you can trust to be honest take a look, and give some constructive criticism. As far as lavalife is concerned, yes, I have tried it long ago. Seriously, terrible. I can go on if you want, but trust me Match is a way better site.
Author ruggy Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 Bro, you should let someone look over your profile, and find some honest women to critique your pics. Think of it like advertising, because it essentially is. While being witty and confident in your email is great, if your pic is terrible, youre screwed. And on top of that, if your profile seems boring, you can also forget about it. My sister was looking at profiles on Match and telling me how absolutely terrible some were, and when I looked they didnt seem all that bad. Have a woman you can trust to be honest take a look, and give some constructive criticism. As far as lavalife is concerned, yes, I have tried it long ago. Seriously, terrible. I can go on if you want, but trust me Match is a way better site. No, I don't think it is the profile, many women seem to like it. I do get winks all the time, about 10 or so a week. Just the women who look at me, are not my target. They do not even match in what I say I am looking for. In the last week alone, since I changed with some new pics I did get around 110 views alone. Don't know. I don't even go for the really hot women. Just the women who seem interesting, fit, and are attractive. Some go into e-mail, most do not. Check this one. E-mailed this one woman, she lives not far from here. I had some white water rafting pics in it. Said they were cool. Talked about that for an e-mail. Then she see said do you hang around Hellskitchen? I said I've been there, but don't know of many places. Asked if she knew of some cool ones. She replied back with a cool place if I liked Italian. Said, sure, love Italian. Asked her if she was going to be around this weekend. Never heard back. So, don't know.
BCCA Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 First of all, don't read anything into the women who wink at you. I learned the hard way that it's really no reflection on you, and usually the hottest of the bunch dont need to send out winks. A lot of times, I'd log on to check out who winked at me, and would be sorely dissapointed for a lot of reasons. Next, realize that even marginally cute chicks are getting tons of email. Even if most of it is lame, you still gotta do something good to catch their attention. And on top of that, if you havent gone out with someone, they're going to blow you off if someone asks them first. I really think you should get a couple emails, then get their number, then ask them out when you call. Any more time than that is wasted. And of course, you just have to take the 'thats life' factor into consideration. These things happen all the time, in real life, too. Get a girls number who seems interested, never calls you back. Go out on a date you though was great, girl goes MIA. What can you do, obviously something they thought was better came along, whatever.
Author ruggy Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 No doubt. I've tried that too. Never heard from them. Guess not their cup of tea. Though, since this other girl I e-mailed, as explained above, I thought it was going right. No dice there either.
knaveman Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 In the last week alone, since I changed with some new pics I did get around 110 views alone. 110! WTF! I have 19 after SIX MONTHS! I must be one ugly mofo!
Author ruggy Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 110! WTF! I have 19 after SIX MONTHS! I must be one ugly mofo! It could be 110,000, but if they do not contact or reply to e-mails it just doesn't matter how many views. It also depends on the area. Probably a lot more women in NYC than Steilacoom, WA.
paddington bear Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 You know what, I think, that online dating works for some lucky few, that's it not really the best way to meet people, sometimes the only way if you don't live in a densly populated urban area and have a vibrant social life...mind you I live in a densly poputate urban area and have a vibrant social life and still have had only 1 date in 2 years...sigh. Anyway, I really think there has to be a 3rd way other than meeting people out in the real world and internet dating. I'm thinking back to match-making, not arranged marriages, but people who single people would go to and then the professional match-maker would, based on their personalities try to match them up. In fact ruggy, maybe you should set that service up! And steal all the good'uns for yourself. Seriously though I really do think we need a more personal touch when it comes to finding someone, it's all too easy on a dating site for someone to not take the bait of going on a date, maybe they've other people emailing them and get distracted by other possibilites. Have you done the whole telling all your friends and co-workers (that you would trust with such a thing), that you're single and looking and to bear that in mind if they know anyone who might be suitable for you - mind you, this didn't work for me as all the friends of my coupled-up friends are in couples.
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Since I am having zero luck with Match I was thinking about giving Lavalife a try. Anyone have any success with it? Yes I did... a few years ago.. My best friend met a few nice guys too.. she fell in love with one..
Lindarose84 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I was on that site a few years ago- definitely a sketchier group of folk on there. Though Match has its drawbacks, it's definitely better than Lava in terms of traffic on the site and the quality of guys (that says a lot). Lava to me seems more like an "adult" site especially when you have their commercials (which I actually don't see on tv anymore) running between 1am-6am in between commercials for Cialis and Enzyte. You always want to choose the site that's extremely popular because obviously you have more guys to choose from- Lava was semi-popular 5 years ago, not so much these days.
jerbear Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Since I am having zero luck with Match I was thinking about giving Lavalife a try. Anyone have any success with it? Yes, I've met a few interesting ones that Match or even eHarmony would not show me. One ended up being "chat buddies." No as in I'm not married to anyone.
Bells Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 No, I don't think it is the profile, many women seem to like it. I do get winks all the time, about 10 or so a week. Just the women who look at me, are not my target. They do not even match in what I say I am looking for. In the last week alone, since I changed with some new pics I did get around 110 views alone. Don't know. I don't even go for the really hot women. Just the women who seem interesting, fit, and are attractive. Some go into e-mail, most do not. Check this one. E-mailed this one woman, she lives not far from here. I had some white water rafting pics in it. Said they were cool. Talked about that for an e-mail. Then she see said do you hang around Hellskitchen? I said I've been there, but don't know of many places. Asked if she knew of some cool ones. She replied back with a cool place if I liked Italian. Said, sure, love Italian. Asked her if she was going to be around this weekend. Never heard back. So, don't know. Yeah, it's probably not all bout the profile or how you present it...chances are, it's the people themselves looking at it and their degree of superficiality. They probably scan the height section and if you don't meet their 6 feet criteria.....they'll skip over the "wonderful" About Me section you've written.
bean1 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Yes I had luck... we have lived together for over a year (been together a while before that) and are in the planning stages for getting married. He was the only one I met (I cancelled a date with another after meeting him). That being said, I had to filter, very very carefully
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