My bf and I are regrouping for one month. I should do NC?

[Girlygirl1977]

I was dating my boyfriend (we dated many years ago for over 2 years and were great together but after long long distance broke up) over the last 6 weeks. We originally dated when I was 23 and he was 25 for 2.5 years. We are each other's longest realationship. I was being guarded and so he told me that he didn't get any compliments, affection; I was being disagreeable which was felt was mean. We started dating 10 days before he moved to Philly from NY and was about to start a new business. He had been dating a woman for 3-4 months and accelerated that break-up to come back to me (didn't tell me till we were together).

 

He didn't remember me this way and I'm not that way when I feel the person definitely is certain about me. He even traveled with me to Europe for work (cancelled going to a friend's bachelor party) and I was still pretty cold/unaffectionate etc. He did things like bring me flowers, buy me slippers which I use at his place. He had high expectations and said he was 100% committed to this but got hurt as I wouldn't even kiss him if he came over at the door etc. So he wants to regroup after telling me this. He thought I didn't even like him but it is the opposite. So I've sent him a letter expressing all the great things about him. He got it on Tuesday and sent me a msg that he was really touched by it and knows that I could only write that if I had deep deep feelings. He also called me a sweetie. I've also taken a day off work last Wednesday to see him (he has his own business). We spoke the previous night for 4.5 hours. We have had a great time last and saw each other a few times. He came to a birthday dinner I had on last Fri and left Saturday afternoon. We have been in touch this week (spoke 3 hours last on Sunday) but only on texts. During this regroup, he said if we have something to say to each other we should say it.

 

So now he realizes how I feel but because it was the opposite of my behavior. He wants to regroup and meet in a month because he thinks that's the best chance for us - if we restart. If he gets emotional (misses me a lot), he may want to end this regroup earlier. Perhaps I will send him cookies next week. I want to end this regroup. What do you think? What's the best way for him to feel more sure and come back sooner?

 

He told me he hasn't given up on us and he loves me.

[Scorpio13c]

Girly,

Sounds like you are extremely insecure, did he date that other person while you two were together? If so, I understand you're being fickle.

 

Scorp

[Girlygirl1977]

Girly,

Sounds like you are extremely insecure, did he date that other person while you two were together? If so, I understand you're being fickle.

 

Scorp

 

He broke up with someone before we started dating - he accelerated the break up after I met him for dinner (we did that from time to time over the years). No he was committed to me but I was evaluating the relationship. I think I'm realizing how I went wrong and trying to make amends. I was kind of the taker while he was the giver and he got frustrated. The truth is I had taken him for granted.