pinkcrush88 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 i met his guy when i was 7th grade and just met him again about a month ago at a mutual friends house. we are both 21 now. he came over to help me with something and he asked me a lot of questions bc he hadnt seen me in years and was just trying to catch up. the next monring i saw he sent me a friend request. a couple says later we started talking on aim, and messaging each other, and texting. he was being mildly flirty and teasing me and stuff. then in the middle of us texting, he just stopped texting and never wrote back. the next day i texted him saying hey but he never replied. i hadnt talked to him in 5 days until i went to my friends house and i wrote him online and we were talking and he was asking me how i was and that he wanted to hang out with me the other day but had to work. and then i said i was bored and i jokingly said i was coming over and he told me i could come over anyway. so we hung out for 2 hours and he was asking me a lot of questions and he was teasing me and whatnot but it was like 3:45 am so i had to go home obviously. so he drove me back to my friends house and he told me to call him the next time im at my friends and that he'll talk to me online. so the next night i wrote him but he never wrote back and i havent talked to him since monday. i dont understand what is going on though. does he like me or not? or is he just too shy or something?
BCCA Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Lukewarm interest. And if you go over a guys house after about 10pm and stay for 2 hours, and dont do anything...they can lose interest. My advice is that once flaky, always flaky. As soon as he stopped responding to your texts the first time, you could probably have figured he would do it again.
girl68 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 He kinda likes you but not really enough. I'd say let him do the work. If he calls cool, if not oh well. When you see him next be poilte and whatever. The next time he asks to hangout you can go, but leave it up to him to call, text or whatever.
Author pinkcrush88 Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 yea thats what im gonna do. i just didnt understand bc he texted me like for 5 days in a row and then the 5th day he just stopped texting me in the middle of our conversation. i just didnt understand. but hes like playing games. and when i was leaving his house he said "im not bringing u home now bc i dont like u its just that im really tired' but he could just be talking about liking me as a friend. i really dont know. but ill prob see him sometime this weekend, and if nothing happens then ill just let him do the rest of the work bc i dont wanna try if hes not responding. hes like fluncuating with how he feels. i dunno if its bc hes shy or i dunno.
girl68 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 No, he's not shy. He's playing games/ evaluating his interest. I'll bet if you were the girl of his dreams you'd be his girlfriend already.
prettybaby Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 He doesn't sound shy. It does, however, sound like you're not his priority. My advice: don't chase him too much at this stage. I'm all for women taking the lead and all, but if he's lukewarm about you at the moment, you definitely don't want to make any moves at this point. Do you guys have similar interests? Similar hobbies? Don't initiate contact too often, but whenever you do, make sure it's with a solid plan. If you share the same interests, ask if he wants to join you some place relevant to that interest/hobby. Like a game or sports activity or whatever. At first, I wouldn't even suggest anything that's one on one; have other friends go too so it all stays casual. And if he says he can't go for whatever reason, then don't insist. Shrug it off and go on with your life. At this point, I wouldn't keep my hopes up too much. He doesn't sound that into you. But who knows, if you play it right, he might grow fonder of you later on. For all we know, he could be head over heels with someone else right now.
Author pinkcrush88 Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 yea i dont wanna bother him bc then it will look like im desperate or something. my friend who has known him for years said hes shy and that hes probably hesitant bc hes been hurt by all of his past girlfriends. but i dont him well enough to know if we have similar interests. i know we both love music though. ive only talked to him for a total of 4 hours but like 2.5 hours of that was like just us talking but it was kinda awkward bc i hadnt seen him since i was younger and i dont know him. im just going by what my friend says. i think ill have to see once i hang out with him again. if he doesnt initiate anything then i guess he doesnt like me. i cant say that i like him, i just think hes cute and really nice and funny. but i dont really know him. i was trying to get to know him but then he stopped talking to me until i saw him the other day and now hes not talking again. but we'll see how it goes. im not going to get my hopes up anyway i dont know him enough to do that.
normal Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Sounds like you haven't done anything to REALLY grab his attention. He's probably interested, but not thrilled about it. If another comes along, he might not stick.... Could be playing the field.
Author pinkcrush88 Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 what can i do to get his attention? im shy and i dont want to try to make a move on him if i dont know if he likes me because then itll be awkward the next time i see him. this past weekend when i saw him i was in pajamas but i mean it was cheer shorts and my college t shirt and my hair was straightened and really nice. but is there something i can do that wont make it obvious or something that i can do to grab his attention?
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