how do you fight the urge

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ok so i have posted this at the dating section but i thought i will post here too as it looks like there's a lot of NC expert here lol.

 

just to give a background here is my sitch i posted a while back http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t189168/

 

so now its been a week since the last time i talked to him. i have made no attempts to contact him in any way and neither did he. i know from the way how things have gone between us, this guy is most likely not the right one for me. i don't know if i'm just being weak but a part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt. after all, there were some things he said where he sounded sincere. sometimes i want to think that he probably really likes me but is just scared and confused for whatever reason, but at the same time i also don't want to end up looking like a fool who does not get the obvious. but lately i just cant stop thinking about him. i just miss him so much. i wonder what he is doing, who is he with, will he ever contact me yada yada.

 

i know we normally feel like this when a relationship does not go so well and some things are left hanging but lately i have this urge to throw some chums into the water and see how he will respond but i'm also trying so hard not to as that would probably not do me any good. last time we talked i never really said goodbye and i told him i need some time. i don't know if we are just both waiting who will do the first move but i have already promised to myself that it wont be me. after all i made it very clear that i don't want him as a friend and im sticking to my words. but is this how its going end? will it do us any good if we say our final goodbye or just let things fade away, which after everything, will be a sad way to end.

 

i'm trying so hard to stay strong but how do you guys fight the urge in situations like this? i really need some encouragement.

[kizik]

You really shouldn't cross-post. Check your other thread for advice.