gavroche Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Just been reading some posts and must say the advice here seems very mature and helpful! Now to my situation, I've just broken up with my GF of 4 months, she dumped me due to my lack of affection (I'm not the most touchy feely type of person) but loved her company and we shared a lot of interests. She has been sending me very mixed signals over the past few weeks and finally the other day said she doesn't see herself having a relationship with me. I'm pretty upset by this breakup and would like to win her back, she said she tried to make it work but never made any effort I could see. Why the hell am I so upset by losing her and do you think that trying a friendship could show her my real self to her.
justletgo07 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 It sounds like the two of you just wanted different things from the relationship. If affection is an important quality in a guy that she's with, then it makes sense that she would let go of a relationship that was not making her happy. Some people just aren't compatible, and that's ok. She was likely sending mixed signals because she was coming to terms with her decision. Do you want to reconcile because of how intensely your feelings are for her, or is it because you were rejected? Before you answer, really think about it.
Author gavroche Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 I guess I want to get back firstly because she was the first girl who told me that this lack of overt affection was a problem and I felt I could nurture her and she me. Her mixed messages really confuse me, on monday she said she meet me Friday night, yesterday she said there's no point. On monday she said there'd be no expectations and I asked is it 100% over, she said she didn't know. I'm now going with NC.
GorillaTheater Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I'm now going with NC. Your best bet. Good luck gav.
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