My ex is having the time of her life while i'm really down...

[bede86]

My ex and I split up a few months back since then she seems to have made a heap of new friends and even some mutual ones we had who i dont see anymore....She basically had no time for me in her life but has time to do all these activities which facebook shoves in my face!!!!!....doesnt seem fair shes looks great while im really down and put a lil weight on....****s me i was nothing but a good boyfriend to her an she mercilessly cuts me loose then wants to be friends so i agree trying not to be petty and then never hear from her.....

[Stung]

life is cyclical. over time, you will be up, and you will be down, and you will get used to seeing others rise and fall at their own pace.

 

if you can't get to a place where you can feel happy for your ex, then just cut her loose. nobody says you have to be friends, and if you're not actually in touch with and talking to one another at all, guess what...you're not. it was just a platitude. it sounds like monitoring her on facebook is torturing you. if you defriend her, no notification is sent...you'll get some peace of mind, and she might not even notice for a while. even if she does notice, who cares? she is your past, let her stay there.

 

the bigger problem is that you are not happy with your own life. don't worry about her, worry about you. you are in a down cycle. what can you do to change this? the mutual friends you feel have been 'won' to her side, were they her friends to begin with or yours? did YOU let them fall by the wayside by never contacting them? if they're really lost to you, then just move on. one of the great things about being alive is you always have a chance to make a new friend. concentrate on yourself, on doing well at your school or work, on meeting new people, on doing things you enjoy. get a hobby or join a sport or whatever.

[start-fresh]

Ugh, Facebook is evil after a breakup. Keep in mind though she is probably hurting inside even though facebook says otherwise. Some people use it to make their lives seem better than they really are. If you don't want to have to defriend her, there's a way to block her stuff from popping up on your news feed or whatever it's called. Do that first and if you can't stop looking at her profile just defriend her. It sounds like her request for friendship is, as Stung put it, just a guilt appeasement thing anyway.

[bede86]

it really ****s me because these mutual friends we made think im some kinda joke now...Well we were in the same kinda crowd before we got together and i dont see them anymore because i changed university courses...I'm getting to the stage where if i see any of the old mutual crowd and they laugh or say anything which has happened a couple of times, im gonna flip and fkn go ape **** at them....I just wish they'd leave me the fk alone.

[subdued]

My daughter recently broke up with her boyfriend, has a new boyfriend, and is having the time of her life. I felt sorry for her previous boyfriend. He had no idea she was thinking of breaking up with him and was so heartbroken at the time. He went home, saw his family, came back, and is now starting to move on with his life. Time heals. One day you will find someone new and forget all about your previous girlfriend. It takes two to make a couple. If it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be.