Missy25 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Help, i need some advice:( I have been married for five years and i feel i dont love my husband anymore. We have 1 child. My husband is very controlling and always moniters all the money and accounts, i do not ever get treated with respect and i feel tired, lonely , and angry! He started a online business 4 years ago and is always on the computer and if i ask him to get off to spend time with us he gets mad! I want passion and to be happy and i feel so run down and controlled! I always have to ask before i go out or spend money and i feel like he is more like my dad then my husband! He is always putting me down for my weight, which i am not fat but i have gained....i was 100 pounds when we dated and now i am 140. I hadnt lost the weight from my son and after i had him went to work in a very stressful job (i wanted to stay home but he wouldnt let me) i gained from the stress as well. He always puts me down and makes me feel unattractive and gets mad if i dont want to have sex with him...i feel so ugly and have no self-esteem...why have i stayed with him? he is the only guy in my whole life to tell me i was pretty...I try to talk to him about all our problems but he acts like a victim and makes it sound like every problem is my fault, gaining to much weight not being a better wife to him ( i work and take care of my son) theres a part of me that wants to leave but at the beginning we had a great relationship...all this crap started after he started his online job well the controlling behavior was always there though but not as bad. what should i do? having a child in this kind of situation makes it hard!!!!
thelostsoul89 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I think you and your child need to get out of this situation. I know a lot of people say that they stay or try and make it work for the childs sake, but this isnt a healthy place for your child to grow up in. You need to ask your family and friends for help, im sure they wont mind if you stay with them until you can get your own place. There are also many Woman shelters out there for abused women that have no where to go. You may not think your husband is abusing you but he is, and whats to stop him from physically hurting you if hes already treating you so low? And for Gods sake file Divorce! You dont derserve to be emotionally abused. Best of luck
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