ExiledLyCan Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 my situation is basically this... Im about 95% sure that girl A has feelings for me. Personally im not sure if i like her enough to want to date her but im sure i've been developing some feelings of interest in her. Girl B, i have a little more interest in atm and would date her if i got the chance. However girl A asked me to help her with some tennis training and i decided to help her. After tennis we are planning to maybe grab something to eat... If we do would it be wrong if i didnt pay for her meal? am i suppose to? Never was good with the whole who should pay situation on dates... Thanks for replies in advance
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 It's up to you. Play it by ear. If you decide during the dinner that you might really like her, or at the very least don't want to completely put her off, then offer to grab the bill. Otherwise, if you want to keep it completely platonic, ask if she wants to go dutch. But you know - my mom gave me a good rule of thumb - whoever's idea the meal was, should be the payer. So if she was the one that suggested dinner and she doesn't even offer to pay her half, I'd be unimpressed with her manners.
further Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I wouldn't consider this meeting as a formal dating. If she does have true feelings for you like you said, then she definitely wants to take this chance to know and approach you more. But you apparently are not ready to go into a romantic relationship with her unless the thing changes during the meeting like SoulSearch_CO said. If you are still not sure you want to go after her by the end of the dinner, DON"T PAY FOR HER MEAL. Think this way, if you pay this time, what you should do if next time both you and she go out as friend like this time? This really put you into a difficult position if you just want to continue to be her nice friend.
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