now_what Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Believe it or not, I've gone six whole days without crying in my car on the way to work or even really thinking about my ex. I went to my counseling appointment and was able to talk about him in a very factual, detached manner and didn't get upset at all when relaying the news that he had remarried so shortly after our dissolution was final. Does this mean that there is hope for me and life does go on? I am going to Toronto over the weekend with my daughter and her friend for a Japanese animation convention - and on Sunday night we are going to a Keane concert in Cleveland. I have looked forward to this for so long and now that it is almost time, I am so excited. My older daughter says I need to meet some nice nerd at the convention to hang out with so I don't have to think about my ex and his old biker chick wife. Truthfully, this week at least, I haven't given them a second thought. Would anyone want to share their personal experience of how long it took to get over a breakup? I read somewhere that it takes 6 months for every year you were together - let's see, that would be 15 plus years for me and I don't think I want to take that long.
hopesndreams Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I do believe it's 1 month for every year, not 6. If it were 6 months for every year I'd be looking for a strong bit of rope---just kiddin'!! It's nice that you've had a break from him though, sadly it is just a break. Expect the pain to return, but I'm sure it will be less pain than what you've been through already. It's good you're keeping busy and have a family that loves you, supports you and spends lots of quality time with you. Would anyone want to share their personal experience of how long it took to get over a breakup? One day, I will, when it happens. Something to look forward to.
confusedcookie Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 i've also heard that it is about half the time you were together, to get over them. so 1 year = 6 months, and so forth, but i think it varies for everybody, if you the dumper or dumpee, and how long before the break that you were already emotionally detached from the relationship.
Author now_what Posted May 27, 2009 Author Posted May 27, 2009 Hmmm, let's see. It's been two weeks without any crying or sadness. The trip to Canada was great fun and the concert was awesome. I feel kind of strange though - for some reason the past with my ex husband seems to be fading from my memory. Sure I remember things, but the day to day living with him seems almost like a dream. I emailed him about paying something for our daughter and told him that she would email him some pictures from our trip, but he is feeling more like an acquaintance to me than someone I lived with for 30 years. I'm not sure what to make of this. I don't feel good or bad about it - just neutral. I've been busy thinking of all the things I need to do or want to do and just really haven't thought about him much at all. Am I just fooling myself?
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