Author Alpha Female Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 So this guy sent me flowers today. With a note saying: I'm sorry. Do over? Whatever. Pfft. I mean, it's nice that he's taking responsibility for his part in this, but I'm over the drama.
Sam Spade Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Why would a guy show up for a first meeting( not really even a date) totally tricked out....INSECURITY!!! You looked great I bet, if I met a woman the first time and she looked like she was ready to go out for dinner and dancing...I would runnnnnnnnnn This - in my view very twisted - opinion prevails only in america . What constitutes casual* in the civilised world here is usually interpreted as dressed up, which is hilarious. I'm not saying this guy was foreign, just pointing that the crazy judgements and the passive-agressive comments people need to put up with just because they don't look like slobs is what's sick. *and what constitutes casual here is typically something that no human being should ever be forced to look at .
xpaperxcutx Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 So this guy sent me flowers today. With a note saying: I'm sorry. Do over? Whatever. Pfft. I mean, it's nice that he's taking responsibility for his part in this, but I'm over the drama. You wanted a reaction out of him, and you got flowers in return. Now you'll turning him down? What are you trying to play at?
Author Alpha Female Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 You wanted a reaction out of him, and you got flowers in return. Now you'll turning him down? What are you trying to play at? Not playing at anything. I just realize how bad we are together, and I don't want to engage with him further. We both played a lot of games with each other, and if we bring out this kind of bad in each other after one date, then I don't think it bodes well for a future. Toxic!
northstar1 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Not playing at anything. I just realize how bad we are together, and I don't want to engage with him further. We both played a lot of games with each other, and if we bring out this kind of bad in each other after one date, then I don't think it bodes well for a future. Toxic! After all this, I'm wondering what the point of this thread was.
Chinook Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Jeez, I'm so glad I'm on a dating break. I couldn't handle all this crap.
fallendisguise Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Not playing at anything. I just realize how bad we are together, and I don't want to engage with him further. We both played a lot of games with each other, and if we bring out this kind of bad in each other after one date, then I don't think it bodes well for a future. Toxic! Alpha Female, I think you are right in cutting of communication. It seems to be a huge headache from the start. I agree with some of the other posters in that you should look at this as a lesson learned type of deal. And yes, he did seem like a douchebag, so no loss on your part. As far as not being able to shake it off I think that has a lot to do with the fact that he cut ties and we as humans don't like that. It's a form of rejection and we would rather be the rejectors instead of the rejectees. Sorry making up my own words right now. Myself personally, I have to find acceptance, even from people who are jerks. Even if it means I find it and then do the rejecting because I didn't want the relationship to begin with. LOL. Wash your hands of it and move on, this will turn out to be way to much drama.
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