SummerLady Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I saw this topic and had to post. Breaking up I know is so complex. There are so many reasons why. He said, she said. Outside influences ect. But you know something I have really come to a hard fast rule on this due to my past. If someone breaks up with you, you need to look at the relationship closer and more realistically to heal completely and this is so hard to do. In my opinion if someone is willing to walk away from you and let you go, how much do they really care for you? How much do they really love you? How important are you to them? Think about this long and hard. The answer is tough to swallow really but basically clear. You are not as important to them as they are to you. Plain and simple. Do you want someone that has you as an option when you have made them a priority? I would think not. I am not saying you will not cry and have days and months of grief. I am just saying you deserve better and should want better. If someone dumps me I may get upset but note that person is not for me and me not for them. Period.
webmuse Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 If we could just get there from here without all the doubt & pain
wow123 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Very well said. I think the tough thing for myself and most is replaying the things the other person said. I love you, You are exactly what I am looking for, I see us getting married. Its tough to believe someone can say these things and then walk away like you don't exist. But they did it to many of us...
Author SummerLady Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 Very well said. I think the tough thing for myself and most is replaying the things the other person said. I love you, You are exactly what I am looking for, I see us getting married. Its tough to believe someone can say these things and then walk away like you don't exist. But they did it to many of us... Yes I hear you, the memories of past promises, love and efforts. I attribute this to learning as you go. I remember years and years ago when I was in college I told someone I loved them and learned later on that I did not. I did not do it intentionally I was just so immature in the relationship realm I did not know what love was really and could not continue in the relationship. I was young though. As you get older you should know what you want and not be so implusive about throwing that word around. I know that now. Maturity is not an age though. We all learn at different stages and picking wisely may be the best thing we can do so we don't end up with someone that is not where they need to be and make decisions and stick with them. Sometimes when we make the best decisions there is no guarantee either. Its such a gamble right? Stakes are high.....Good Luck.
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