angieg101 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I really could use some advise. My exbf of 6 months and I have been seeing each other/communicating regularly since our initial break-up. The break up wasn't messing, it just wasn't a good time for either of us. Anyway, we are now causally dating again, trying to see where things may lead. Some of my girl friends don't think I should re-visit this relationship for whatever reason and they have express this via text. I have also voiced some skepticism to my girls via text, but I've decided to see where the relationship leads. So yesterday after hanging out at this house, I left my phone, which doesn't have a lock. Halfway home I realized that I didn't have it so I stopped at a gas station, called him and told him I was coming back for it. When we were on the phone he sounded a bit off and then when I went to get the phone he seemed a bit distant. Based on his actions I believe he read my messages and looked through my phone. We are not officially together yet so we both are allowed to see other people (even tho I'm not). Some of the messages about him were a bit harsh and exaggerated. Anyone reading it without the appropriate context could get a very negative impression. I really care about this guy and would like to try to work things out with him. Everything was going well until this phone incident. My question is: do I confront him about possibly reading my text messages or do I leave it alone? He's been the one pursuing me recently so I think this may cause him to back off and I don't want that. How do I get that point across without seeming like him chasing him? Any advise is welcomed. Thanks.
wuggle Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 IF you really like the guy then assume he HAS read the text messages and try talking to him and explain the context of them, then at least if he tells you to s*d off you have tried, otherwise you are leaving him with the impression that you are a cow. If his impression of you matters ? does it ? even if the relationship goes nowhere ? if it does then be prepared to put yourself on the line AND have him tell you to go to hell. If it doesn't then leave it.
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