OCCDAVE Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I've been doing nc for some time now id say its been about 2 months of strict nc which has been pretty easy.In these 2 months my ex has contacted me more then ever through texts.I miss you,Maybe we can work things out,It's not onesided,I wish i could hold you now and so on.I've ignored all of them cause i dont wanna raise her ego.Yesterday was her birthday and i was gonna send a greeting i wont lie but read some posts here and decided not to.I then get a text like this I cant believe you forgot today was my birthday you brat ? I got a small chuckle out of that and deleted it ugh is this girl just brain dead why would i send a b day greeting when you dumped me ?
badbrit Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Dave I have a suggestion for you mate, try being honest with yourself for once. We are not in your life, we are not going to judge you, we will help and advise. Go lie to your friends and family and put on the big front in their company but not here as this is an anyonomous forum. You say you are over her, then post asking if NC is working? You say you have a new partner and are going to a party where the ex will be and you are worried she will say something but you are not interested in her then you think about her all the time then she is a cow and screwed up then you want to know if you can talk to her kids then then then Look mate, I feel the pain, truly I do. sit down, slap yourself in the face and tell yourself that it is over over over. She has proven not to be right for you and it is never ever ever going to work out. You might be able to reconcille but even if you did I would bet my life savings it would crumble again very fast. You have to move forward and stop doing this to yourself or you will be stuck in pain. Plus, I do not think you are being very fair to the new gf if you are still this obsessed with the ex. I have been there and done that too and justified it also with all kinds of crazy excuses. It is only now I am past the ex, totally past her and pity her and her pathetic life that I can see what an arse I was to everyone and how I would make daft excuses up.
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