SophieA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 K, as most of you know I've been in a cranky a$$ mood lately and I just thought I'd start this thread. If you're feeling a little (or a lot) lonely or cranky...please feel free to respond: Why does missing someone constantly suck so much? 1. It sucks because they're having new experiences and meeting new people in a brand new place...and you can't be there to be part of it. (In no way is it a bad thing for him to be having these experiences..I just wish I were part of it.) 2. It sucks because on Skype you can see/hear him but can't touch/hold him. 3. It sucks because we have to go so long without sex! 4. It sucks because no matter how much fun I'm having...he's always missing.
northstar1 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 K, as most of you know I've been in a cranky a$$ mood lately and I just thought I'd start this thread. If you're feeling a little (or a lot) lonely or cranky...please feel free to respond: Why does missing someone constantly suck so much? 1. It sucks because they're having new experiences and meeting new people in a brand new place...and you can't be there to be part of it. (In no way is it a bad thing for him to be having these experiences..I just wish I were part of it.) 2. It sucks because on Skype you can see/hear him but can't touch/hold him. 3. It sucks because we have to go so long without sex! 4. It sucks because no matter how much fun I'm having...he's always missing. Those are just some of the reason's I couldn't do an LDR again
Author SophieA Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 While I understand that LDRs are not easy...obviously...I'd never give up on this. He's just the best man in the world to me. Smart, sexy, kind. My best friend. So even though LD freaking SUCKS like none other...if it's what I have to do to have him in my life, so be it.
Bearandsue Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 K, as most of you know I've been in a cranky a$$ mood lately and I just thought I'd start this thread. If you're feeling a little (or a lot) lonely or cranky...please feel free to respond: Why does missing someone constantly suck so much? 1. It sucks because they're having new experiences and meeting new people in a brand new place...and you can't be there to be part of it. (In no way is it a bad thing for him to be having these experiences..I just wish I were part of it.) 2. It sucks because on Skype you can see/hear him but can't touch/hold him. 3. It sucks because we have to go so long without sex! 4. It sucks because no matter how much fun I'm having...he's always missing. Can I have all of the above times a thousand Alex?!!!!!!!!! I miss my bear so much right now I cannot cope. I know I will see him in less than two weeks but gosh darn it I am at my breaking point. I just wanna give him a big old hug and kiss so bad. It is really heart wrenching sometimes being without him but I know that there is nobody else for me. He is my ONE. *sighs*
Rollercoasterr Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Shoo, thanks for reminding me. Number 3 makes itself more and more noticable as the time goes on. People at my work actually notice this, haha. 17 more days and I wont be so grumpy anymore!!! yayy! I just miss everything about him. Especially the way he smells. Sometimes I will randomly catch a whiff of that(I'm almost positive it's in my head since he hasn't been here in almost a month), and it just about brings me to tears. Just miss him so much...
hisprincess4eva Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 lol i agree with all 4 of the reasons!!!!! its trulyy sucks to be away from someone you love so much! but at then end you know he is so worth it. I knw my babyy is so worth it. ahh i jus want him to be back home again, even though he jus started lol. But its all good, because "distance means so little when someone means so much" hang in there sophieA time will by fly so fast u won't even tell thats how it went for me!
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 All of the reasons in the first post PLUS: 5. Just because people can't see him and don't talk to him they forget that he is still very much a part of my life. 6. The years go by and I am more and more conscious of the possibility we may not be able to have our own family. 7. I have to continually concentrate on what his face would look like when he is talking to me. Just so I can remember his facial expressions. The smallest things people all around me take for granted. 8. I am sick of people thinking my marriage is any different than theirs is -- like somehow it is easier (YEAH! EASIER!!), or that we must not really care that we're apart, and well, just minimalizing my feelings in general -- or thinking I am just insane. (OH GAWD WHY CAN'T HE JUST BE HERE ALREADY!) 9. That people all around me think somehow that I am just USED TO IT when one can never ever get used to it. He is away from me. I am aware of that from the moment my eyes open, all throughout the day no matter what I am doing, into the evening when families settle down for dinner, and through the night until I can finally somehow fall asleep -- constantly reminded that there is no one next to me and there hasn't been for so FLIPPIN' long!! And that he is lying so far away, arms empty as well, and that we would each be drifting off into blissful sleep if GEOGRAPHY wasn't in the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH. Sorry if some was OT.
crimsonrose Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 10- how you feel more burdensome as a lover because you cant even truly be yourself- instead youre clingy an overemotional because sadness is always boiling just beneath the surface.
Bearandsue Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 All of the reasons in the first post PLUS: 5. Just because people can't see him and don't talk to him they forget that he is still very much a part of my life. 6. The years go by and I am more and more conscious of the possibility we may not be able to have our own family. 7. I have to continually concentrate on what his face would look like when he is talking to me. Just so I can remember his facial expressions. The smallest things people all around me take for granted. 8. I am sick of people thinking my marriage is any different than theirs is -- like somehow it is easier (YEAH! EASIER!!), or that we must not really care that we're apart, and well, just minimalizing my feelings in general -- or thinking I am just insane. (OH GAWD WHY CAN'T HE JUST BE HERE ALREADY!) 9. That people all around me think somehow that I am just USED TO IT when one can never ever get used to it. He is away from me. I am aware of that from the moment my eyes open, all throughout the day no matter what I am doing, into the evening when families settle down for dinner, and through the night until I can finally somehow fall asleep -- constantly reminded that there is no one next to me and there hasn't been for so FLIPPIN' long!! And that he is lying so far away, arms empty as well, and that we would each be drifting off into blissful sleep if GEOGRAPHY wasn't in the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH. Sorry if some was OT. I cant even say I can relate to what you are going through IG. Your situation is so unique on here. You know, before I found this LDR forum I used to take for granted the time my bear would spend with me. Not saying I didn't enjoy it but it was just never enough, I guess. But seeing what you are going through makes me really appreciate the time we spend together, whether visiting or just talking on the web cam. Your LDR is truly very inspirational to me.
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I cant even say I can relate to what you are going through IG. Your situation is so unique on here. You know, before I found this LDR forum I used to take for granted the time my bear would spend with me. Not saying I didn't enjoy it but it was just never enough, I guess. But seeing what you are going through makes me really appreciate the time we spend together, whether visiting or just talking on the web cam. Your LDR is truly very inspirational to me. That was a very sweet post Bearandsue. Sometimes it is so incredibly hard. But because I have been living with it for so long it is just something I have been accustomed to living with. Believe me I can't wait for the day when I get to feel something other than longing! It is an exhausting tortuous emotion! I can't wait until I can feel happiness and not have this underlying it. But I am lucky. I am lucky that I get to pick up the phone and immediately hear his voice. I am not sending letters into the blue and not knowing for weeks if he is still out there and still loving me. There are others out there who have never found the kind of love we have. They don't even know what they are missing. That is really sad. And then there are those who no longer have their loves here on Earth with them. So in the grand scheme of things there are those far worse off than I am. And I am glad my story can inspire those who have found love and in my own way show anything is possible. It sucks that I miss him all the time and have for so long. There is no way around that. I am so done with these feelings. They are my constant companion for years and years now. When I saw him in 2006, when we were married, those three weeks were INCREDIBLE. I was waking and living without the feelings that are my constant companion. And I hadn't felt free like that for three years at that time. I try to remember that is what life is really like. That is what it will be. *sigh* I MISS HIM! I miss his face. I miss his hands. I miss his breathe in my hair. I miss seeing that twinkle in his eye when he listens to me talking. And on and on and on...
Author SophieA Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 IG- your strength is INCREDIBLE. My bf has barely been gone over a month and I am seriously going NUTS....most days. Some days I seem to do fine...but others I SERIOUSLY consider booking a plane ticket and calling in sick just so I see him for a 3 day weekend. In fact, if my passport comes before the 5th of June I am going to do just that. I'm just NOT adjusting to this distance very well. Used to see him 3 times a week and now it will probably be more like 5 times a year...although, we're trying to make it more often than that....
Eilonwy Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 11. People don't take your relationship seriously because they think you chose a LDR on purpose - because it's so "easy" when you can just turn of the computer whenever your SO annoys you, and because it's so "great" to have more time for yourself. (It really annoys me they think it works that way, and that I actually prefer it. How could I prefer not having him near me?!) 12. Because you can't fall asleep together / wake up next to each other. (That is one of the worst things for me...)
alwayslookingup Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I miss the way my SO smells...I always end up curling up with one of his t-shirts at night
SaffronBlu Posted May 24, 2009 Posted May 24, 2009 11. People don't take your relationship seriously because they think you chose a LDR on purpose - because it's so "easy" when you can just turn of the computer whenever your SO annoys you, and because it's so "great" to have more time for yourself. (It really annoys me they think it works that way, and that I actually prefer it. How could I prefer not having him near me?!) 12. Because you can't fall asleep together / wake up next to each other. (That is one of the worst things for me...) 13. Sometimes it slips your mind in the hectic-ness of your day when you accidently pick up the phone dial their local number hoping to hear their voice and you realize they are in a different time zone or when you are looking forward to going home because you might see them and there's no one there... for now..but there will be...soon
sunflower89 Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 I hate seeing beautiful things and not being able to share them with him. I hate that I can't meet his family and friends right now.
hoping2heal Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 15. (sorry are we that far? lol ) Waiting literally all day and all night for a phone call .
Maggs Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 15. (sorry are we that far? lol ) Waiting literally all day and all night for a phone call . I hear you there!!! The 2 biggest things for me. So I guess that's 16 & 17. Just being lonely for physical contact! Not necessarly sex, but just affection--a hug, a kiss, holding hands, etc. And doing something on your own that you'd normally do with your OH and it just sucks doing it on your own! Like we always watch Friends together. It's our show. And I can't enjoy it even half as much when we're apart.
Rollercoasterr Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 18. I miss the way he braids my hair when I fall asleep with my head in his lap. I miss the way he touches me like I'm a porcelain doll. 19. I miss barely waking up to the feeling of him lightly kissing me and hugging me closer. I miss hearing that sweet sigh and feeling him wrap his arms around me. LDR's suck so bad. They could probably suck a golf ball through a garden hose.
Island Girl Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 LDR's suck so bad. They could probably suck a golf ball through a garden hose. A watermelon through a straw. :(:(
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