sumdude Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Sigh, my cross to bear. My snoring has caused problems in more than one relationship. By the end of my marriage I was waking up with bruises on my side from my ex-wife's elbow. Now the woman I'm seeing is a very light sleeper so even if I snore on and off or just a little she doesn't sleep. I think it's causing her to doubt continuing the relationship. After all, how to you travel with someone, sleep in the same bed yet never get a good night's sleep? I'm not 100% about the relationship yet either but the snoring/sleeping thing sure puts some pressure on it. Over the years I've tried the nose strips and other things. Not much seems to help. I do have a deviated septum which I could have surgery for. Thing is that may or may not help the snoring and if it does only a little. For a while my ex actually slept with ear plugs. oh well.. just venting. Somewhere I'll meet a woman who can sleep through a train wreck lol..
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Do you only snore when you're on your back? Have you tried sewing a tennis ball into the back of the shirt you sleep in? Up between your shoulder blades. Then anytime you'd roll onto your back, it'd be uncomfortable and you'd roll to the other side. I don't have firsthand experience with if this works, but haven't heard a negative story to it, yet. Would your current GF consider earplugs?
2sure Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 My H's snoring used to keep me awake, and during the week - I would be exhausted and irritable by Wed. or Thurs. from lack of a good nights sleep. He tried everything. Whats worse, he falls asleep and starts snoring before I even begin to doze off. I bought ear plugs. The foam kind. They dont give me complete silence, but enough to fall asleep and unless he is WAY loud, enough to stay asleep.
sb129 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I wear DELUXE earplugs. Only way H and I can share a bed.
helovesme Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Seems you answered your own question. You need someone who will sleep through a train wreck...haha On a serious note, maybe you should look into the surgery. Especially if it spills into most of your relationships. This should be a fairly easy thing to fix. Good luck!
Author sumdude Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Thanbks all for the replies. Yes it's much better when ii sleep on my side, but it's hard t always sleep that way. If I sleep on my side all the time my back gets tight and hurts a bit. Snoring is usually dues toi the soft tissues in the throat and not so much from sinuses though it could help some to open them up with the surgery. Otherwise she's been pulling away for the last few days, I'm sure there are some other reasons besides the snoring. She kinda gave me the "I'm not sure, maybe we should be able to see other people too." speech. We never did have the exclusive talk so I'll take that to mean someone else may be peaking her interest a bit. Life is full of opportunities so I'll keep my eyes open for myself too. I'll just leave her some space to figure out what she wants.
blind_otter Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I think you should consult with an ENT doctor. It couldn't hurt, and there are probably a lot of products or treatments out there nowadays not available over the counter. And it would probably be a good idea, because snoring can actually be a sign of other more serious progressive health issues....
Author sumdude Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 I think you should consult with an ENT doctor. It couldn't hurt, and there are probably a lot of products or treatments out there nowadays not available over the counter. And it would probably be a good idea, because snoring can actually be a sign of other more serious progressive health issues.... I've been to see an ENT. She found the deviated septum and some other minor sinus issues. She told me the septum surgery may or may not help the snoring.
missmich Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 At least tiy admit that you snore. LOL The man I'm dating now snores but claims it's only b/c of my cats and his allergy to them. LOL He's slept over twice and it was hard for me to fall asleep and I was pretty tired the next day. I may consider ear plugs if he becomes a regular overnight guest.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Yeah, I've been there. It it a huge PITA, and it can be a great source of stress. Snoring is a sign that there's an obstruction, a problem that needs to be remedied. I suggest you take some steps to get rid of the problem, or at least improve it.
HappyAgain Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I've been there with your wife; slept on the couch many a nights because of the ex's snoring.
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 My BF is a LOUD snorer. He bought PureSleep. With it in his mouth, I can sleep like a baby. But it hurts his jaw... so I feel bad. Do earplugs actually work? What if you have a different alarm than they do, and need to hear it?
sb129 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 My earplugs usually fall out while I am sleeping- its GETTING to sleep thats the problem. My alarm is LOUD, even the earplugs don't block that out.
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 My earplugs usually fall out while I am sleeping- its GETTING to sleep thats the problem. Me too. BF falls asleep within 5 seconds of closing his eyes. It takes me MUCH longer to fall asleep, and I'm often left irritated if he starts snoring. You don't find the earplugs bothersome when you're laying on your side?
JustLooking123 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 See your doctor. Seriously. Also, if you are at all overweight, lose weight.
sb129 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 No, they are made of wax, so you can mould them to your ear. They are probably not even that good for me, but they work, and sb129 with no sleep is not a fun concept.
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 sb129 with no sleep is not a fun concept. Neither is Star Gazer. Hence why Star Gazer's BF wears Pure Sleep.
sb129 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I googled PureSleep- I make those at work sometimes. I bet you a million bucks I couldn't get Wonderboy to wear that. Well done you for getting Shirtguy to wear his.
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Try it. BF actually went and got it all on his own. He actually has three now!
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I wear earplugs to bed because I sleep during the day (and most people don't, but think that I should be awake, too ) and I work all night. I use my phone alarm and it's easily heard through my earplugs. I wear foam earplugs. They don't fall out, and they fit flush with my ears, so lying on my side is not a problem. I've tried several different ones, found these at the grocery store: http://www.amazon.com/Super-Leight-Pre-Shaped-Foam-Plugs/dp/B0000533CF and they've been the best so far. Super soft, don't hurt my ears even wearing them everyday, and they came with a holder.
Author sumdude Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 On a scale of 1 to whale how fat are you? Answer me this. On a scale of 7 - 13 what 's your intellectual age?
Sibyl Vane Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 I don't know... answer me this. On a scale of 7 - 13 what 's your intellectual age? If she's going to break up with you over snoring, I doubt there is much there to begin with. Earplugs are a perfectly reasonable solution.
Enema Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Answer me this. On a scale of 7 - 13 what 's your intellectual age? Touchy subject I see. Obviously, you're fat. If you really want to help your snoring problem - lose weight. My wife worked in a sleep laboratory for a few years monitoring chronic snorers and sleep apnea sufferers. 99 times out of 100, it's weight related.
sb129 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Thats true- it is often weight related. My H is very lean- but he has had a broken nose a few times so I think thats why he snores.
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