simon0707 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I am a 20 year old male. I am very outgoing and lots of people view me as the 'funny' one of the group. But that's where my luck stops. I fear that my always-joking personality automatically puts me in the friend zone when it comes to girls. I'm not an ugly guy, but I also don't have abs or anything. I consider myself a pretty goodlooking guy, just have some extra pounds here and there, but nothing huge. I've had some experience with girls, most notably a year and a half relationship that ended recently. But I met that girl online and never really had to work for it. I really like my friend's sister, and don't know what to do. She's outgoing, and we're always teasing each other. But she's somewhat tom-boyish and is the kind of girl that gets along with everyone, so my chances are really slim. What would you do? She's about my age, and like I said she's very outgoing and talkative. We talk a lot but I never get a chance to have 1 on 1 convo, so it just makes it harder. When we do talk in groups though, we're always teasing each other and kinda insulting each other, obviously as a joke. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.
karie5744 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I'd say: Just ask her out.... one on one.. take her fishing.. ask her to pack a lunch.. skip stones across the water see who is " the best" let her win.. If ya never make the move and ask.. you'll be forever wondering ... (I wish I could find that type of guy)
Author simon0707 Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 I wish I could, and if it was another girl, I would. Thing is, she's always hanging out with our group of friends, so if she says no, I will be very very embarassed. How would I face her brother, a good friend of mine? She just seems like she leads a lot of people on, and I heard her longest relationship ever was 2 months. But something about her just attracts me, I don't know what it is but it's there.
BobSacamento Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 If you don't want be friend zoned then don't be a friend. It's that simple really. The less she knows about you the better.
BCCA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I wish I could, and if it was another girl, I would. Thing is, she's always hanging out with our group of friends, so if she says no, I will be very very embarassed. How would I face her brother, a good friend of mine? She just seems like she leads a lot of people on, and I heard her longest relationship ever was 2 months. But something about her just attracts me, I don't know what it is but it's there. Dude, you DON'T date your friends sisters. Thats just common curtesy. Chances are, a relationship wont work out, so then you lose the girl and your buddy, and if it was my sister - i would be taking her side. One of my buddies sister's is in love with me, is totally hot, and really funny, and I wouldnt touch her. Sure, if it wasnt for her brother she would be a great girl to ask out, but I'm not going to ruin a friendship over that. As far as staying out of the friend zone, like Bob said, dont be their friends. Dont hang out platonically, or be another one of the girls. Ask them to do something with you, if they dont say yes, move on. Simple as that. I think it can be tricky to figure out what someones intentions are if you havent gone through it, but honestly, women make it pretty easy for you to ask them out if they want you to. And they say 'yes', as opposed to 'maybe/ill think about it/ill let you know' which all mean 'no'.
IcemanJB Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Dude, you DON'T date your friends sisters. Thats just common curtesy. Chances are, a relationship wont work out, so then you lose the girl and your buddy, and if it was my sister - i would be taking her side. One of my buddies sister's is in love with me, is totally hot, and really funny, and I wouldnt touch her. Sure, if it wasnt for her brother she would be a great girl to ask out, but I'm not going to ruin a friendship over that. As far as staying out of the friend zone, like Bob said, dont be their friends. Dont hang out platonically, or be another one of the girls. Ask them to do something with you, if they dont say yes, move on. Simple as that. I think it can be tricky to figure out what someones intentions are if you havent gone through it, but honestly, women make it pretty easy for you to ask them out if they want you to. And they say 'yes', as opposed to 'maybe/ill think about it/ill let you know' which all mean 'no'. I've dated a good friend's sister before. I got his permission before I did. She and I aren't together anymore, and I'm still really good friends with him.
BCCA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I've dated a good friend's sister before. I got his permission before I did. She and I aren't together anymore, and I'm still really good friends with him. Getting the friends permission was a good move. Thats really classy. I guess for me, I just dont go there, but there are exceptions to everything.
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