Cora Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Ughh I feel terrible for even feeling like this. I just found out tonight that my ex who lied to me for eight months, cheated on me and disappeared without a goodbye or any closure has just broken up with his fiancee....the girl he cheated on me with. Now I don't know all the details or what happened but if I had to guess he probably continued to lie to her and perhaps cheated yet again. Maybe it's true in his case....once a cheater always a cheater? Anyway, I found out he has had to move back home with his mother as well because he was living with his fiancee and she was basically supporting him. I guess maybe Karma really does come back to get you? I can't help but feel a little happy that he is now hurting like I hurt over him all those months. Sigh...does this make me a terrible person? I feel bad for his fiancee because she is a sweet girl who didn't deserve a jerk like him. I really do have a heart I promise. I just know that he never gave a damn about me and it angered me that I wasted eight months on him. I'm horrible for feeling like this right?
JohnnyBlaze Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Nope, not in the least. It makes you a normal human being. Humans like vengeance, and without having to do anything, you just got a little. People have this thing about only feeling 'noble' thoughts, but we don't always have noble thoughts. We don't just walk away cleanly and wish everyone the best of luck in life. We like to know that those who screwed us over have suffered. Whether or not it's valid, I think we like it because it gives us a little feeling that our suffering wasn't all in vain. Look at most any action flick out there. They follow the same format: good guy lives his life peacefully. Bad guy screws it up. Good guy kicks bad guy's a$$ all over the place and burns down or blows up everything he holds dear. Why do we like it? It's vengeance! It provides more anecdotal evidence that being a good person has its rewards and being bad has its penalties. In your case, the other girl is incidental, so don't think that anything you're feeling is aimed towards her. In fact, that you think you should feel bad shows that don't want to feel anything bad towards her. There's nothing particular about her; she could've been a girl down the street, one at the office, or just some stranger on the street. She just happened to be the next girl he found after you. Feeling sorry about her situation and happy about his don't have to be mutually exclusive events. Anything you're feeling is about him, and from the sounds of it, he hasn't done anything to deserve your sympathy, so no, don't feel bad about feeling good.
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