karie5744 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Hi I am FINALLY starting over in the dating scene. I am 52 years old. Now I realize this sounds odd but I can't find a guy. I have lived in my SMALL 800 population town for like 35 years and all the small towns or villages around me are either smaller with one having about 300 more in it but mainly female.. I have searched online for a guy with my likes, and I email them, but I never get a reply. I say just looking for chat...first.. I also state my kids are adults on their own, I have a cat, I've been single for over 1 year. I state my food likes, dislikes, what kinds of fun I enjoy, but coming from a small town we don't have excitement bigger cities offer. Do you think I am doomed forever to be single? (I divorced 20 years ago). I just KNOW I'm not writing my personal ad properly. Should I keep my profile out there? Also you answer MANY questions, one being my car is old, 20 yrs.. and that I am not a thin nor fat woman.. but pudgy here, love handles HELP ME PLEASE!! thanks:eek:
BCCA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Now I realize this sounds odd but I can't find a guy. That doesnt sound odd at all, millions of people have the same problem. You might want to look into having someone look over your profile and tell you what they think. You can ask a friend, but someone like a co-worker is also a good idea. I asked one of mine, and she honestly told me a bunch of things to change. I can't tell you for sure if that was of any help, because I honestly kind of lost interest in the whole thing afterward and havent even looked at my profile in months, but it certainly couldnt hurt. Also, remember dating is basically a numbers game, and its unfortunate when the numbers you have to play with aren't very big. You'e never doomed, but we all have our slow periods. Just hang in there.
Itsnotme Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I agree with the above post. Hang in there. I'm 43 and single after a ten year marriage. I'm not desperate and having a relationship is not the be all and end all for me but I would like to meet someone. The thing I've found is that things are different now. Dating seems a thing of the past and everyone seems so casual about it. It's hard but not impossible. Online dating can be a good way to meet people but be careful, there are some strange people out there. Trust me, I found them.
stepka Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 It doesn't sound odd to me and I live in a big city--I think our age is a strike against us (50 here). It's not hopeless, but you may have to look further afield. Online dating probably won't work for you at all--I think most of the men don't even look at the profiles of anyone over 40 and then you have a small pool to choose from. You'd be better off to go get actively involved in hobbies that appeal to men also, or hit some bluegrass festivals or whatever else appeals to you. Also, don't rule someone out just b/c he's not age appropriate or the same race--you can find some really neat men where you didn't think you'd find them before.
stepka Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Oh, and train yourself to flirt and always go out w/ your makeup on, you never know when you'll run into "him". He may not care about the makeup, but you'll feel more like flirting if you know you look good.
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