***3 months nc now ex says he misses me & looks at photos of me??

[Charmaine_Champagne]

hey everyone, i've been away from love shack for a while now, was finding sometimes coming on here was getting me down and that i was obsessing over my break up and torturing myself to the point where i was spending hours on my lap top, neglecting college, work, etc and generally driving myself up the wall.

 

anyway, i need some advice so see what you guys make of this..

 

first a bit of background.. i've been 90 days NC with my ex (go me!) in that time he's efforts to contact me have been minimal to say the least. in the 3months i had 3 texts from him, 1 was blank and i got a drunk 'i miss you' text around a month ago. his texts didn't really say anything meaningful, i feel they were bait to see if i would respond. you can read my other threads for more detailed background if you don't know the story (we were together almost 6 years, first loves and basically he dumped me, or rather ignored me until i went away, such a coward, left me in limbo for weeks not knowing where i stood until i had enough, i went NC, he was very cruel, very immature, didn't have the balls to tell me i guess).. like i say u can read other threads by me, he really hurt me)

 

anyway this is an update 3 days ago i received an email from him (it's been 3 months since he's heard from me) and his email said 'i miss you' and he had attached a jpeg of a photo of me. it's a photo of me from his birthday last year and it's kinda cute i guess.. and my boobs look huge in it ha ha

 

so then an hour later i get a text msg through to my cell from him that reads..

 

''hey **** how r ya just looking at photos of you i miss you hope all is well''

 

(**** = he called me by a pet name he always had for me also)

 

so far i haven't answered him i don't know what to say and family friends say i should maintain NC. the next day i had a private withheld number call my cell phone, i didn't pick up. i figure it was my ex ringing to see if i still had the same number after all this time.

 

there has been no apology, no explanation of why he completely abondoned me 3 months ago. i always said i wanted closure with him but i don't know if i should use this contact to open up the window to conversation. and why after 3 months of hearing very little from him has he suddenly decided he misses me.

 

i feel he is immature and doesn't really know how to go about contacting me after everything so he is doing the whole casual, bright n breezy 'how r ya' type of thing. i haven't heard anything since the weekend.

 

any thoughts on am i doing the right thing ignoring him? ofcourse i miss him but i don't even know if i would get closure from talking to him as he will prob feed me a pack of lies (i know him too well)

[Charmaine_Champagne]

by the way sorry guys i didn't mean to post this thread twice, i hit the back button to try to edit my post and ended up saving it again.. like i say it's been a while since i've been on here... i lived here for afew weeks when my ex was first up to his tricks