brock9911 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 me and my ex were having problems but nothing that seemed to much to fix. well about a year ago i found out she had cheated on my and we split up for a while. she swore she was going to mend her ways and fix things. so we got back together and things were being worked on. now the most recent of problems is we are both drinkers. we're young and like to party, or at least i still do. she decided to stop that trend and when i continued she kicked me out of the house. mind you we were together for 8 years and 4 of them we lived together. we continued to date but we kept our space and did our own thing. i didnt get any calls or texts from her for 4 days because she went into my emails and myspace and started reading all of my messages. she got mad that girls would talk to me or contact me (completely harmless) i never insinuated hooking or or lead them on we are just friends. and over the 4 days she wouldnt talk to me, me and 3 of my friends hung out with this girl whose back from college and now she says she has proof that im a cheater and that we're over. she threw out all of our photos and made me empty all of my stuff from the house. how is her cheating being turned around on me. is she that guilty she needs to try to find me guilty too to make her feel better. fml
Dexter Morgan Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 me and my ex were having problems but nothing that seemed to much to fix. well about a year ago i found out she had cheated on my and we split up for a while. she swore she was going to mend her ways and fix things. so we got back together and things were being worked on. now the most recent of problems is we are both drinkers. we're young and like to party yes, I'd say that is a good part of the problem alright. Partiers don't have a really good track record of being faithful. You may be a faithful person, I don't know. or at least i still do. she decided to stop that trend and when i continued she kicked me out of the house. then I wouldn't fret it. She is selfish. She cheats on you, you give her a 2nd chance, and she kicks you out when, to our knowledge, you haven't been unfaithful to her. not someone I'd think you want anyway. and she kicked YOU out of the "house"? Why doesn't SHE leave? Is it her house? mind you we were together for 8 years and 4 of them we lived together. we continued to date but we kept our space and did our own thing. i didnt get any calls or texts from her for 4 days because she went into my emails and myspace and started reading all of my messages. she got mad that girls would talk to me or contact me (completely harmless) i never insinuated hooking or or lead them on we are just friends. and over the 4 days she wouldnt talk to me, me and 3 of my friends hung out with this girl whose back from college and now she says she has proof that im a cheater and that we're over. she threw out all of our photos and made me empty all of my stuff from the house. how is her cheating being turned around on me. is she that guilty she needs to try to find me guilty too to make her feel better. fml thats just it, she says she has proof, you know better. Or is there something you aren't telling us? But here you are giving her a 2nd chance...lets say you did cheat...then shouldn't she give you the same consideration you gave her? I'd just be glad you are done with her. My guess is that she wants to cheat again, or is cheating, so she desperately tried to dig up dirt on you.
Author brock9911 Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 yeah its a crappy situation. after 8 years you dont want to just give things up. but as for the cheating scenario i never cheated. i dont have anything to hide, and if i did cheat this would all make some sense. thats y its so frustrating. and for the housing situation we were living in her parents house, so i didnt have any choice. from what i know my friends caught her hooking up 3 times. making out from what ive heard. who knows what other times shes gone farther and never got caught. who knows if shes cheating right now and that its her guilt making her think im cheating. a cheater is quick to point a finger when there doing something wrong. eh this just all sux
wow123 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 My ex did the same thing to me. She accused me of doing things behind her back when she was really the one doing it to me. None of the things she accused me of were true. I believe they do it to ease their own minds of the guilt. They may truly make themselves believe that we did those things to make it easier to move on. I'm on LI too. Maybe we should go out, grab some beers and meet some girls who aren't crazy!
Author brock9911 Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 haha yeah girls are the hardest people to read sometimes. at first the thought of the breakup was shock but with all the fighting kind of a relief. now i cant stop thinking about her. weather shes thinking of me or if shes with someone else. breakups suck especial when you devote such a long time to the person. you really dont know what to do with yourself. i look at my emails, facebook and myspace multiple times a day to see if i get anything, and each time comes up with nothing.
wow123 Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 Ya man. My guess is she made herself believe that you cheated on her even though you really didn't. Girls always find ways to make themselves feel better and aim all of the blame at men.
Author brock9911 Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 believe me i know the what if game. but i still do it anyway. she made sooo many mistakes, but she was still there for me. i know this is irrelevant but she cooked cleaned ect. basically like having a wife. i know i became colder when i found out she cheated, but i told her i needed time for healing and she needed to let me do my thing. i didnt want to break up... which i guess was a mistake because of what she did but i loved her and im not exactly the most secure guy. im confident but deep inside insecure which most people dont see in me but what ever. i keep saying well if i forgave her quicker yadda yadda than this would never have happened, but in reality she was the one who was wrong. my minds a mess. and the worst part is i found out she cheated the same time my father passed away wtf. and she said she wanted to settle down and get married. after she cheated, i may be insecure but im not a fool. the hardest part is thinking, if this is really over how the hell do i get back out there on the market. its been 8 years, im lost. ugh
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