djdiablo Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I am in a relationship with a girl that is 4 years younger than me. I am 24. We have been dating for about a year. I do care about her a lot but I don’t see the relationship going much further. I have recently reconnected with an old crush. It is the old crush’s birthday soon and she lives in another city about 2 hours away. I was thinking of going there for the day to surprise her with flowers. My work allows me to travel and work. Nothing would happen since I am still in a relationship and to be honest I don’t see a relationship with the old crush having much chance of leading up to something. Hell, I don’t even know why I want to do it. Should I go? No, I am not planning to tell my gf and I feel like an a$$ because of this. By the way, I know it would make my crush's week if I visited her since we get along very very well. The other detail is that she just got out of a relationship at the same time she moved to a new city and started a new job. SO she is pretty alone where she is except for her best girlfriend who invited me to spend her bday with them. I know it would be a great time.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 IMO - dump your GF before you go. You're not doing her any favors using her as a place-holder.
Truly Lost Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Yeah, I agree. If your relationship with your current girlfriend is going nowhere, you should end it. You would want her to do the same if the situation was reversed. At this point, you are wasting her time and yours. It hurts when you break up with someone, but it will hurt a lot more, for her, if or when she finds out that you were trying to meet up with someone else. Believe me...you don't have to have sex with someone to be considered a cheater. All you gotta do is start acting out your pursuit for someone else, regardless of how far you get.
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