Midas Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 My life has taken a significant turnaround lately. It downright makes my head spin, if the truth be known! To make a long story short--especially for the attention deficit individuals such as myself--I was romantically involved with my summer school sweetheart on and off for a few years. At one point, we got serious and I asked her to marry me. It seemed to go downhill from there. Needless to say, it ended in disaster. All of my hopes & dreams were shattered. So what does that that have to do with long-distance affairs? I'm glad you asked! I managed to stay clear of relationships of all sorts (platonic, romantic, sexual, etc.) for the better part of 17 years. In some circles, that could be considered emotionally anorexic. I agree. Anyway, things have taken quite an interesting turn. I have recently renewed contact with a girlfriend that I met playing an online game about 8 years ago. She lives in the midwest, and I live in AZ, so there's approximately 2000 miles between us. Not only that, but this relationship is a May-December one. I'm 13 years her senior. I swore to myself this would never happen. Boy! Am I being proved wrong about a lot of things lately. It's pretty funny in an odd way. I swore I would never fall in love with a woman more than 20 miles from me. Wow. Just typing this out is totally blowing my mind. And, she's taller than I am by 2". LoL. Three strikes. Now, I could be wrong, but I think I'm finally starting to mature a little. One major factor is Al-anon. I've learned a great deal about myself in the past nine months since I've been attending meetings regularly. My girlfriend and I have been communicating almost daily by Yahoo and email--sometimes twice daily. We seem to have a lot in common. And wow, it sounds so weird to call her my girlfriend after all this time. I think I'm falling for her despite myself... Any remotely similar experiences out there? Online dating didn't seem to do much for me before, but this is somehow different.
Island Girl Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I had decided I wasn't going to have relationships when I met my husband. I had set up ground rules that pretty much guaranteed a guy would get fired within weeks. I had my reasons. And they were valid. But love happens when you least expect it. And it has it's own agenda. I wish you well in your relationship. There are plenty here who met online just as you did. Welcome to our little family at Loveshack.
You'reasian Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I can't see myself meeting someone from an online video game. Don't even play them.
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 But love happens when you least expect it. And it has it's own agenda. I wish you well in your relationship. There are plenty here who met online just as you did. Welcome to our little family at Loveshack. Thank You. Eight years ago, when she and I "met" in the game, we didn't have feelings for each other. We were friends, yes, but that's about it. Our relationship has totally blossomed into something fantastic! I know it may sound wishy-washy, but I find myself fascinated by the whole scenario.
era Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Been there done that... When do you plan to meet in-person?
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 I dunno yet, but we're talking about a lot of things. This is really exciting!!
Island Girl Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 If you can -- the first meeting should happen the sooner the better. I am so glad you are so excited!
KikiW Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Met my LDR in an online game as well, we are coming up on a year since we first started really getting to know each other. We live about 1200 miles apart and see each other about every other month (although this summer will be more frequent). His goal is to be living here with me by the holidays. We can't wait
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Thanks for the replies. I'm normally not spontaneous, but I've got this giddy feeling in me that just wants to jump in the car and drive to see her. LoL. The funny thing is, we've mutually agreed to take things rather slowly. Our conversations get a little steamy...*sigh* I'm amazed at some of the things we've discussed. We agree on some relatively troublesome and controversial topics. Compared to my previous engagement years ago with my high school sweetheart--she and I argued about EVERYTHING. This new relationship is definitely the breath of fresh air I've been desiring for a long time. It's a blessing.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 You have never met this girl before in real life? I know its wonderful and amazing and yada yada but do your self a fav and keep yourself grounded also make the 1st meeting soon don't put it off after that then go from there best of luck...
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 I could easily let my heart float away into the [iNSERT ROMANTIC CLICHE' HERE]. I'm doing my best to stay grounded considering my foolish past. And no, I've never met her face-to-face. We've been corresponding for less than two months. What time-frame would you say "soon" is? I've never done this before.
LonelyTiger Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Hi Midas. Welcome to LS. I think 'soon' should be as soon as possible. The sooner you get to meet up the sooner you'll know if what you feel is real and is likely to go somewhere. The longer you leave it, the more disappointed you'll be if you don't hit it off in person. It's interesting that you say we've mutually agreed to take things rather slowly. Our conversations get a little steamy. I'm not sure that having steamy conversations with someone you've never met is 'taking things rather slowly' but that's just my opinion. Arrange a meeting as soon as you can - I wish you all the best.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I could easily let my heart float away into the [iNSERT ROMANTIC CLICHE' HERE]. I'm doing my best to stay grounded considering my foolish past. And no, I've never met her face-to-face. We've been corresponding for less than two months. What time-frame would you say "soon" is? I've never done this before. Soon is id say with in the next week or so the Internet is a wonderful place to meet people I think. But its also just a tool to an end just cause you feel this way about each other on line doesn't mean it will translate the same in person. People have to click there has to be chemistry for a romantic connection that can only be established spending time around eachother. If you put it off for much longer you risk a deep heart ake... Again best of luck and I would arrange a meeting.
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Hi Midas. Welcome to LS. I'm not sure that having steamy conversations with someone you've never met is 'taking things rather slowly' but that's just my opinion. - I wish you all the best. *blush* Thanks. It's the "Crawl, Run, Walk" approach. LoL.
Island Girl Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Soon is id say with in the next week or so the Internet is a wonderful place to meet people I think. But its also just a tool to an end just cause you feel this way about each other on line doesn't mean it will translate the same in person. People have to click there has to be chemistry for a romantic connection that can only be established spending time around eachother. If you put it off for much longer you risk a deep heart ake... Again best of luck and I would arrange a meeting. All of this is true. Sometimes that spark just isn't there in person -- and sometimes it is there IN SPADES!! You should arrange a meeting as soon as you can. YES ---- ASAP!! And then you'll know what foundation you are building this relationship on -- Platonic Friendship or Fiery Passion.
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 OMG. She's coming out to see me. *hyperventilating* What do I do??
Author Midas Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Dunno yet...but it sounds like she's planning something soon.
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 OMG. She's coming out to see me. *hyperventilating* What do I do?? What do you mean what do you do? You get excited, anxious, nervous, elated, and every other emotion you can think of ----- and you make plans for while she is there ----- and you get ready to find out if you are going to have chemistry and this becomes more than you ever thought possible or if you have a really good friend whose company you enjoy. The only pressure is the pressure you put on yourself. You have been talking so you know each other. Try and relax as much as you can and focus on the positive.
Author Midas Posted May 21, 2009 Author Posted May 21, 2009 Thank You, Thank You, Thank You! You get excited, anxious, nervous, elated, and every other emotion you can think of... Tell me about it! My emotions are running wild like a runnaway train.
era Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 But its also just a tool to an end just cause you feel this way about each other on line doesn't mean it will translate the same in person. People have to click there has to be chemistry for a romantic connection that can only be established spending time around eachother. That's true. Spanks - I tried to message you..it says your PM's are turned off.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Sorry about that era I think its back on now I tried to message u just then... good to hear op hope things work OK for you guys..
era Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Sorry about that era I think its back on now I tried to message u just then... good to hear op hope things work OK for you guys.. Got it...but still can't PM you back.
motive2002 Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 I had set up ground rules that pretty much guaranteed a guy would get fired within weeks. Haha.. sorry to hijack.. but the first image in my mind was Donald Trump. "You're fired!" New reality show? "The Bachelorette" meets "The apprentice"?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Got it...but still can't PM you back. dang thats odd lettme look again..
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