ruggy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 So I met this girl back after my last disaster. Went out twice and then we always had tentative plans for a third date but something always got lost in communication or something. So this was the fourth time in like two months since I seen her which she "forgot" about our plans. And the last time I did call to remind her. Left a VM. So she calls and I told her and she said sorry I forgot about it. She got the VM but was running all over the place that she forgot about our date. Or hang out, or meet, or whatever they call it these days. I said, it just was not cool to do. If you had to cancel, you should had called. To be honest, the first two times, she did call in advance to reschedule. Third she fell a sleep and called me in the middle of the night and said what happened to our plans. Anyways, back to the the forth skipped date after call. She said, I (her) apologized and I do not want to talk of fight about it anymore! I said, I see. Well, alright. I gotta go. Have a nice life and good bye, She calls me again a week later saying what the hell for me not calling her anymore. Am I missing something here? As many of you know, I am not the sharpest when it comes to dating. I think I made myself pretty clear. Why would she think of calling after a week goes by after saying good bye? It would had been nice to develop something, but obviously, at least to me, I was not important enough to see only hear. Why should I had continued something where I was feeling under-appreciated?
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Cripes. What is she, 17? She seems to be lacking in understanding social cues and decorum. I don't understand her behavior at all. But had to laugh at HER falling asleep and then calling you later to ask WTH?
Author ruggy Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 She's 35. Figured, after four missed dates and just talking over the telephone, it was getting old. I guess, she has other priorities. I still do not think she understand what the problem was. Who knows. I'd would not be surprised if she called again. Possibly a more direct approach of no longer interested and wasting my time would be better. Some people.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 LOL can you believe this happened to me too!!! No freaking lie this girl was a freaking flake! Ruggy, loose her number and if she calls again tell her. I forgot to call, just like you did. lol. Bet that'll ruffle her feathers.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Stay away from flakes. They are bad news. Next!
Bells Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 So I met this girl back after my last disaster. Went out twice and then we always had tentative plans for a third date but something always got lost in communication or something. So this was the fourth time in like two months since I seen her which she "forgot" about our plans. And the last time I did call to remind her. Left a VM. So she calls and I told her and she said sorry I forgot about it. She got the VM but was running all over the place that she forgot about our date. Or hang out, or meet, or whatever they call it these days. I said, it just was not cool to do. If you had to cancel, you should had called. To be honest, the first two times, she did call in advance to reschedule. Third she fell a sleep and called me in the middle of the night and said what happened to our plans. Anyways, back to the the forth skipped date after call. She said, I (her) apologized and I do not want to talk of fight about it anymore! I said, I see. Well, alright. I gotta go. Have a nice life and good bye, She calls me again a week later saying what the hell for me not calling her anymore. Am I missing something here? As many of you know, I am not the sharpest when it comes to dating. I think I made myself pretty clear. Why would she think of calling after a week goes by after saying good bye? It would had been nice to develop something, but obviously, at least to me, I was not important enough to see only hear. Why should I had continued something where I was feeling under-appreciated? LOL....I had some flake do that with me....there was actually some kind of 3 hour event at a small pub she was suppose to meet me at. it was at 8 pm....and it was getting to 9 pm (must've called her two or 3 times while I was waiting in the parking lot) And she never answered and let it go to voicemail. I drove back home, and around 11pm (after it was all over) she said she had just arrived...the pub was still open though, but the event was over. I was like WTF?
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Wow. I'm glad to say I haven't had very much dating experience. Where the hell are you guys finding these women? Gees. I don't know how people have a conscience and can do this to other people.
Truly Lost Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Obviously she wasn't that interested in hanging out with you. If she was, she wouldn't have fallen asleep on you. Also cancelling on you too. People can be busy, but you can always make time for someone if you plan it out right. She called you a week later probably because it dawned on her that you were serious when you said "bye". She screwed up. But be careful about continuing to date her. Just because she is questioning how serious you are about not dating her anymore doesn't mean she is interested in you. Being dumped can really hurt a person's ego and she maybe just searching for validation that she is still desirable.
dreamergrl Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 She's a flakey girl. You were the back burner plans.
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Amazingly she called about an hour ago and left a message wanting to talk. Some women are just strange.
BCCA Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Amazingly she called about an hour ago and left a message wanting to talk. Some women are just strange. You have to wonder if her feable attempts to be 'hard to get' backfired on her. I mean seriously, how warped do you have to be to not understand that cancelling a date even once is bad enough, let alone 3 times (including a sudden bout of insomnia)? You know what, you did the right thing, and she's shocked. She wanted you to chase and be there at her beckon call, and you told her to pound sand. Good for you bro.
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Not trying to play games here. The last one just made me say, wait a minute here. It was on her birthday no less. You acknowledge the call and then say was I supposed to call you back? Hmm, the message did say call me back. This one was the first. I can honestly say, after that last one, I really do feel her anymore. I mean, geez, the message, all giddy and crap on the VM. I really think she's in her own world. If I did that to her or any other woman, I would had never hear from them again. One makes me think she'll come by to "talk". That should be fun.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Why dont you just ignore her!? WTF , why is she calling you!?
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 I am. As far as I am concerned done is done. Just thought it was ironic her actions.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I am. As far as I am concerned done is done. Just thought it was ironic her actions. No what's ironic is , is that you dont open your mouth and assert yourself and tell her to hop the F off! Women are only gonna push as far as you let them!
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Ironic in the sense I was chasing her and calling her. Now the reverse. None the less, she'll get the message. She's the next guy's problem. Not mine.
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Do you believe she called again? Said we've had our good and bad times but had a good connection. Ugh. So good that she forgot to meet me on her birthday on Saturday. Truly amazing.
2sure Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 As you rightly surmised, she was not interested enough to remember your dates let alone keep them. That doesn't mean she doesn't like you asking. In fact, she so much likes having you as an option that now that you have stopped calling..she would like you to resume. The end result will not change. She may actually keep a date should you ever offer her one...but only if she has absolutely nothing better to do, including taking a nap. You not calling her again is great. It says she is not worth the bother.
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 The strange thing is, with all these messages she's leaving, I do not think she really knows why. I bet she things everything's cool and doesn't understand why I am no longer taking her calls. Weird.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 The strange thing is, with all these messages she's leaving, I do not think she really knows why. I bet she things everything's cool and doesn't understand why I am no longer taking her calls. Weird. ...Why dont you just tell her so she wont have to keep calling you, and women say we need to read minds? lol.
Author ruggy Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 Umm, I did. I said good bye and have a nice life. Then hung up the phone. Silence for the last two weeks. Then calling starting on Friday. From her not me.
2sure Posted May 21, 2009 Posted May 21, 2009 She simply cannot grasp the concept that someone would not tolerate her rudeness just for the mere chance of maybe, someday, being able to take her to dinner.
Author ruggy Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 So, I was thinking the same thing. After three calls to my VM, I decided to call her back and find out what was SO important to tell me. That was Wednesday night. No call back. Why would someone ask three times and leave a minute plus message on my VM and ask for me to call her back then does not call me back? I think she really is, like, out there..
tinklebell Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 So, I was thinking the same thing. After three calls to my VM, I decided to call her back and find out what was SO important to tell me. That was Wednesday night. No call back. Why would someone ask three times and leave a minute plus message on my VM and ask for me to call her back then does not call me back? I think she really is, like, out there.. Maybe she was calling to ask you out or the call was about something that was time sensitive?
Author ruggy Posted May 23, 2009 Author Posted May 23, 2009 Maybe she was calling to ask you out or the call was about something that was time sensitive? Not sure. She called at like 2 in the afternoon. I was working after school until 7ish. I got home at 8. Had something to eat can then called her. No response. The last VM was like Hey hope all is good. I've been leaving messages but never heard back from you. Not sure if your getting your messages or not. I know we've had our ups and downs and goods and bads but I think we have a really good connection. Anyways, please give me a call back. I have something to ask you and need your opinion on... Parapharasing of course. Now, regardless of whatever happened, I am not a dick. Ingorning someone is not my deal. So I called her back a few hours later and left a VM saying got your VM call me back if you want to talk. Nothing. Guess it was not that important. Who knows. I seem to attract weird woman. Not sure why.
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