wla39 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Just some background information here. I started dating a girl I work with about 3 weeks ago, everything has been amazing for about 3 weeks until recently I feel like she has lost interest in me. We had 3 dates in the first 2 weeks, on the 3rd I cooked dinner, had a great night and I kissed her goodnight...all seemed well. We haven't seen each other besides once at work in the past week. We used to text back and forth often, and talk on the phone from time to time and it seems like that has stopped for the most part. When I text she doesn't write much back anymore and when I call she seems like she's not too excited about being on the phone. This could just be me being weird, this is her last week of school, finals and such and graduation. I told her last time I talked to her to call me when she had some free time and let me know when she could hang out. My question is, do I call her just to talk (what I want to do because I really do care and I'm interested in how she's doing) or give her space and let her call me when she decides she's ready? I don't want her to go days without hearing from me and think I've lost interest in her. Personally I want to just follow my heart and call her when I feel like talking and not worry about it but I don't want to smother her.
colosseum Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Maybe she's getting bored? Maybe she wants to move things faster. Or... This could just be me being weird, this is her last week of school, finals and such and graduation. Those can't be helping either. My question is, do I call her just to talk No. IF you call, you call with an objective: i.e. see when she can next spend time with you. or give her space and let her call me when she decides she's ready? Yes. So don't call her. I don't want her to go days without hearing from me and think I've lost interest in her. Honorable, but at this point she doesn't seem that she would be that hurt if you did, no offense. Personally I want to just follow my heart and call her when I feel like talking and not worry about it but I don't want to smother her. Again noble, but it's not going to make you look good, IMO. Wait for her to call. You give her time and space, and you also give her room to long for and wonder and think about you. If she calls, great. If she doesn't, well you would have your answer wouldn't you.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Leave her be until finals and graduation are over. At least then you'd be able to gauge her interest better. And she'd get a little bit of space if that's all she's looking for.
Author wla39 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Thank you for the replies and the advice. I think I know the right thing to do is to not call but a part of me wanted someone to give the go ahead that there wasn't anything wrong with it. Luckily I don't work with her the rest of the week so there won't have to be any meetings for a while so she will have time to call if she is indeed still interested. On a side note, she hasn't actually initiated a phone conversation since i've known her so she might be a bit hesitant. Secondly she's entirely too nice of a person for her own good so she might have had a change of heart and just not have the courage to tell me and want me to take a hint. Time will tell I guess, I'll be struggling around wednesday after he last final not to see how the week went but I suppose I'll stay strong and wait it out.
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