wow123 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Why do girls always need to line up a new guy before they get out of a serious relationship? It has happened to me time and time again.
shopgirl7907 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 i don't think all girls do this, I didn't. I think the ones that you have been with and that are doing this are selfish and insecure. They don't want to be alone but they want to mke sure there is something better before they leve the for sure thing. It sucks, it's wrong, nd it's extremely selfish. You need to start looking for different type of girl. just curious; When you start dating these girls are they lredy in relationships or just coming off of one? If so, I would say it's pattern behavior and next time you should be sure to only date single, emotionally available women. Good Luck in the future.
Author wow123 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Thanks for the insight. One was just coming off a relationship and the other claimed to be single for a year which I now really don't believe.
hopesndreams Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Why do girls always need to line up a new guy before they get out of a serious relationship? It has happened to me time and time again. It's not exclusive, guys do it too. They do it because they can't face being alone. Very selfish people do this, with no regard for the other person's feelings.
trustydusty Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Yeah I think i am noticing the same pattern with my ex girlfriend i think she is selfish and insecure, and i think thats one of the main reasons why she broke up with me...and then she trys to say i'm insecure! haha. She had just gotten out of a long relationship before me so i don't think she ever gave her self time to emotionally heal, and she brought her problems into our relationship. however they didn't rear their ugly head until right before we broke up! Hang in there man...
Author wow123 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Thanks man...you too. Ya mine I dont think ever got over one of her ex's which effected our relationship greatly.
boogieboy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 There is another aspect....people do it when they already found someone new they think might be a better fit. Its not necessarily that they cant be alone.
hopesndreams Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 There is another aspect....people do it when they already found someone new they think might be a better fit. Its not necessarily that they cant be alone. They look for the better fit when they are not happy in a relationship, and instead of just telling the OP that and breaking things off they set themselves up for someone else. The new person they want doesn't just fall from the sky, they seek them and or receptive to them. Insecure, selfish people hate being alone and will stay in an unhappy relationship until there is someone else. It's all planned.
boogieboy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 They look for the better fit when they are not happy in a relationship, and instead of just telling the OP that and breaking things off they set themselves up for someone else. The new person they want doesn't just fall from the sky, they seek them and or receptive to them. Insecure, selfish people hate being alone and will stay in an unhappy relationship until there is someone else. It's all planned. Yeah, what you said! it happened to me just like that.
Dan83 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 This happened to me recently as well, it sucks and hurts, very badly, that's for sure. The way I see it is it's all for the best though (as much as it sucks). I don't know about you, but I would prefer not to be with someone capable of being so cruel to someone they supposedly care about.
Author wow123 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 When we began dating I asked her when her last relationship was for this specific reason. She told me she was single for the past year. I guess that just meant she didnt have any serious boyfriends and may have very well went from one fling to another in the meantime. Lesson learned I guess...CRUSHED
carhill Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Insecure, selfish people hate being alone and will stay in an unhappy relationship until there is someone else. It's all planned. Truer words have never been spoken, especially the deliberate planning part. Thanks
LadyV Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Exactly!!! That is the way I see it...some people just can't handle being alone. I would much rather be alone, and work on ME, than fill that void with another person!!
broken_promises Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Yeah, I'm currently going through this myself with my boyfriend of 3 years. We are just starting to talk about breaking up and he is already lining up a new girl on Facebook. It just makes you feel like you don't even matter. Or that all of the breakup words are lies because they are really keeping their mind on the new person instead of being present and honoring what you had together before moving on. It is killing me to think of him talking to her and that she'll be all primed for him to start dating as soon as we're done. I just get so angry - like, can't he even wait until we are done to start this process??? And yes, my bf is a person who jumps from one relationship to another with promises of serious partnership, building a life together, marriage, etc. until the reality sets in and he starts biding his time with someone until he is ready to move on to the next poor, unsuspecting woman who will fall for his loving words and generous nature. I guess I hate how two-faced it feels when they are with you and still talking and telling you they love you while also talking to a new person and getting their ego stroked by all the new, exciting feelings of first getting to know someone.
Nuala83 Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Why do girls always need to line up a new guy before they get out of a serious relationship? It has happened to me time and time again. Guys do it too. It happened to me.
robinincarolina Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 I thought that was the man's game. They are the ones that always jump back into a relationship. Usually only after weeks. In answer to your question, they are not lining them up, they have already met them. A lot of times when we are in a relationship where we are not getting what we need, along comes another guy who may start to give the attention. A lot of women just move to the next guy hoping they will get what they need.
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