4givrnt4gtr Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Ive been dating this awesome guy for almost 6 months. Ive known him for quite some time now (5 years) but it wasnt until now that we were able to date (timing issues) In any case, we've had our ups and downs as usual but for the past 2 months we've been really strong, looking forward to the future, making plans etc. Anyway, his family want to meet me and I have been invited over many times unfortunately I haven't been able to come just yet (they live about 400 miles away). However, in July he invited me to a huge wedding they are having where ALL of his family including extended family will be there. They seem really excited to meet me and I already feel welcome. Now, seeing as how we are getting pretty serious I thought it would be good for him to meet my family (who live about 200 miles away). I told him about it and he seemed to look forward to it. We decided this coming weekend would be a good time since its a long weekend so we could stay longer and relax... Well, i called up my mom who lives with my brother and told her about our plans. She hmm and hawed about it for a while and then told me to ask my brother if it was ok. It really hurt my feelings that she seemed so unexcited about it but i figured it was because she didnt know how my brother would feel about us staying there. Well i emailed my brother and he said that he "guessed" we could come over, but didnt know where we could stay. That my boyfriend might be able to stay in the couches though that would be kind of awkward but it was up to me. I feel really bad about this. I now feel like it probably isnt a good idea to bring my boyfriend over as my family seems so reluctant to receive us. We dont have $$ for hotels so thats kind of out of the question. Im just so sad that I dont have a home to come to. Im not sure what to do now, whether to come down anyway even though they are so reluctant about having us, or to just scratch the plan, tell my bf that they are gonna be busy this weekend and just let it go. I dont want to make him feel like my family doesnt welcome him. What would you guys do??
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Nevermind. I talked to my brother and he says that the problem isnt by boyfriend but his soon to be exwife. He doesnt want her to cause a scene so he rather drive up to my town with my mom and nephew to meet my boyfriend than have us go down and risk her going crazy (they still live together). Thanks anyway
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