rounder08 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Ok, I am on day 6 of NC, and finding it a lot more difficult then I imagined. EVERYTHING reminds me of my ex. For example, I saw a commercial that had a retro looking chair in it and it somehow made me think of the time her and I went on vacation this time last year and stayed in a retro hotel. All from a chair!? The other thing that is really bothering me is that I keep thinking that she is having the time of her life with her boyfriend and that he is everything she wants in a man. This makes me feel even more down. I thought she would at least try and contact me to see how I am doing, but she hasn't. Does this mean she doesn't care even though she kept telling me before how much she missed me? I know that I shouldn't care because I am trying to move on, but it's tough now, and I am still in the early stages of NC. Finally, a buddy of mine told me that he ended up feeling down and out about his ex for 8 months. 8 MONTHS!? If I'm still like this 8 months from now, I don't know what I'm gonna do.... PHEW! okay, thanks for letting me get all that off my chest.
somewhat damaged Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I know EXACTLY how your feel. I am going through this myself. I am on day 2 of NC and like you said, everything reminds me of her. The most random things. I'm here suffering alone while she is f*cking another dude and living a new life. I'm am going to do my best to stick to NC. In less than 48 hours since beginning NC, and starting to let go, I have already been able to get better insight about the whole relationship. I'm hurting but practically numb right now - but my happiness is my own, she is no longer going to make me happy. I realize it. It sucks.
xxSRMxx Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Im in the first 24 hours of NC and I know my ex is seeing a few other girls too. I HATE IT. It makes me feel sick. But WELL DONE on getting to day 6!! I hope to be there too in 5 days! Hang in there x
Author rounder08 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 She just texted me wondering how I have been doing and wondering why she hasn't heard from me in a while. I don't know what to do. I was always contacting her before and told her that I wanted to keep in contact before I all of a sudden started NC without informing her. Given our past situation, I'm not sure if I should at least respond to let her know that I do not think we should speak anymore. I'm the one who screwed our relationship up, and I think she deserves some civil explanation as to why I am not speaking to her.
Cinnamon777 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I think it's only fair to let her know that you are going with NC to work on healing. This way she can honor the NC. If she is with someone else then she should respect the fact you are trying to let her go. If she doesn't know... then you are leaving the door open for her to wander back into your life. Part of you might want her back, but if she is with someone else then you are only torchuring yourself by leaving the door open.
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