zane445 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Here's the scenario, im a 19 year old male. Ive been in a relationship with Girl A (who is 18) for 2-3 months now. I met her through work, she is my manager. Before we officially started dating we were having a fling, at this time that was all i wanted it to be, but she seemed ardent about becoming my girlfriend. I have had little experience with girls on this level so i figured id try it, also because i was afraid of hurting her. Girl A is quite smart academically, she did well at school and is now at uni. However, her common sense is somewhat lacking, and is quite clumsy, which really annoys me sometimes. When we are by ourselves we get along fairly well. When she is amongst her friends she changes, she talks rudely etc..this pisses me off. She is reasonably attractive on a physical level, about 60kg, 165cm, tanned and likes sex, though that doesnt phase me too much. She says she loves me and its obvious she does, i say i love her too, really i dont, though i like her immensely. Also we have had arguments from disagreements at work, in which she has ended up in tears Then there is Girl B, who i work with aswell. She is only 16 but thats ok with me. She is stunning to look at, beautiful blue eyes. She is a tad shorter than Girl A, much skinnier (i prefer skinnier girls) and much prettier. Girl B and I have a similar sense of humour and get along well. She is single as far as i know, i have feelings for her and have done since before the fling between myself and Girl A started. She is a virgin and probably wouldnt want to have sex anytime soon, i would be okay with that. Whether she has feelings for me...there have been signs which tell me yes, but its so hard to tell with girls. She doesnt go to school but is doing a course in the ermm 'beauty industry'. I think i'm in love with Girl B, but what do i do about Girl A who i really like and don't want to hurt? Should i express my feelings with Girl B and find out if she feels the same? I cant stop thinking about Girl B, the situation is making me depressed. I would greatly appreciate any advice anyone could offer. Thanks in advance.
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 For goodness' sake you are none of you out of your teens, and you're agonising over relationships - ?! You're still children, really... you should just be having friendships and not getting into anything heavy! Relax... just enjoy your young days... you will never get them back. Serious relationships will be for later, believe me!
bitbyte Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 The answer is basic math: If B>A then R=B-A, then multiply.
missmich Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 The 16 IS still a child!!! Please don't go from one girl to the next that fast. Stop telling Girl A that you love her when you don't. My advice is to sit down with her and break it off if the arguments etc... are that bad. Then take a break from dating anyone for a while. If later on you still want to date Girl B take it slow. Dating someone you work with is tough. Not always a good idea.
dreamergrl Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 If you're telling a girl you love her when you don't, you are not mature enough to handle a relationship.
BCCA Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Dude, how much can you possibly s**t where you eat and expect it not to smell? You shouldnt get involved with people at work, and definitely not with 2 different women. Also, if you dont love someone, dont tell them you do. Its actually cruel, and there is no reason to lie. Youre giving her the impression that youre on the same page, but youre obviously not. Here is my advice: dont date people at work. Furthermore, the 16 year old is off limits, thats litterally illegal.
Author zane445 Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Thankyou guys for your opinions, to get this out of the way 16 is the legal limit where i live. Yes she is younger but i am immature for my age, myself and Girl B seem to be on the same wavelength. So i should break it off with Girl A..any specifics as to what to say exactly? I'm sorry for being so naive, as i said-little experience in the relationship area.
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