matrix4583 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Ok, I have been talking to this person that i love soo much from a far away state and yesturday i told her that i am too weak right now to be in a long distance relationship because she is too far away from me and i want to see her soo bad so i broke up with her due to that. Then after that i call her back and told her that i want to be with her again and she accepted. Now my questions is; did I broke our trust or did i do anything wrong in our relationship like respect? and do you know if we our feeling is the same again? Did i do anything wrong on my part? I want to be with her soo much and i hope everything the same again.
Island Girl Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Did you do anything wrong? Well, you have to do what is best for you. As far as the LDR goes you broke it off suddenly and for no reason at all - except you haven't seen each other but then you wanted to be back together and the circumstances are still the same - so you could experience some distance from your partner. She is going to have to learn that she can trust you completely again and that you aren't just going to cut and run when things get tough. As far as feeling the same - only you would know that. I wish you luck.
Author matrix4583 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 Did you do anything wrong? Well, you have to do what is best for you. As far as the LDR goes you broke it off suddenly and for no reason at all - except you haven't seen each other but then you wanted to be back together and the circumstances are still the same - so you could experience some distance from your partner. She is going to have to learn that she can trust you completely again and that you aren't just going to cut and run when things get tough. As far as feeling the same - only you would know that. I wish you luck. how long will that distance apart last? am still talking to her and she still talking to me at the moment. but i am not sure if she is happy at the moment so how again is distance apart emotional/physically(maybe phone) last? i will update about us. I love her soo much and we are working things out together to stay together.
KikiW Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 If you are asking how long the distance between you will last (assuming you mean tensions when speaking on the phone), that is up to the two of you. If you are wholeheartedly going in on this relationship, you need to make a big effort. You need to communicate openly. Are there plans to see each other? Can you make plans and focus on them? She may not be putting her all into the relationship if she is skittish that you are going to run away again. You need to prove to her that it won't happen again. You need to contact her frequently, and reassure her that you are putting your heart on the line because you realized what a mistake it was to leave before.
Author matrix4583 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 If you are asking how long the distance between you will last (assuming you mean tensions when speaking on the phone), that is up to the two of you. If you are wholeheartedly going in on this relationship, you need to make a big effort. You need to communicate openly. Are there plans to see each other? Can you make plans and focus on them? She may not be putting her all into the relationship if she is skittish that you are going to run away again. You need to prove to her that it won't happen again. You need to contact her frequently, and reassure her that you are putting your heart on the line because you realized what a mistake it was to leave before. we been talking on the phone/web cam for 3 months we will see each other in 20 days and she will live with me. It just that i am really weak about long distance relationship somehow. How do i prove that i want to be with her for a long time? we been talking on the phone/web cam for 3 months.
Author matrix4583 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 In a relationship, there will always be up and down correct? as long as both work together then things will be alright correct? I just broke up with my girl but then just got back again due to me being weak at LDR. I did not do anything wrong though, except being weak at the moment. I told her that she is the strong one and am the weak one. Anyone ever have that problem? we are in a 3 month period and will be seeing each other and live with each other in 20 days.
KikiW Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I'm kind of confused. You have known this girl for 3 months, and are going to be moving in together in about 3 weeks, but you broke up with her (I assume sometime within the last month or so) but you are now back together? How did this go from breaking up to moving in together? Or if this was on the horizon, why would you break up with someone if you have an end to the LDR in sight? It seems to me that your issues are going away in a fairly short amount of time, unless your GF is having doubts.
Island Girl Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I second what Kiki has said. I do not understand the time line here. You have been together for 3 months and you are moving in together in 20 days --- but you couldn't wait so you broke up with her? And then you called right back and got back together? Yes, relationships are a series of ups and downs but BOTH people need to be strong and work through issues either with compromise or give/take. And I can't understand from your post if you mean there is distance between the two of you in your conversations or are you speaking of the distance between you physically...?
Rollercoasterr Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I am SO confused from this. I can't even begin to understand the timeline/actual story. You've been with the girl for 3 months? or you last saw her 3 months ago? Ugh. I think I need an aspirin now. That's all.
LonelyTiger Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Confused here too! It sounds to me as though you haven't even met this girl yet and you're talking about moving in together?!!! If I've got that wrong and you had a relationship prior to going long distance, and you've only been long distance for 3 months, and moving in together in 20 days, to end it because you can't cope with the distance seems very odd to me! If that's the case then I wouldn't be surprised if she's feeling insecure! On the bright side, you have less than three weeks until you see her, so perhaps you could talk to her then about what happened, if you still feel it's necessary?
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