Lucky555 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 When dating when is the right time to determine if you should bring up "only date me" and see where it goes? Is there a point in time when you should just move on? What have you all experienced?
Trialbyfire Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Lucky, are you looking for the "when" to have or expect an exclusivity discussion? If so, there's no set time to do this. Also, many people make assumptions of exclusivity, even when you've told them otherwise.
paddington bear Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Depends if you are a guy or a girl. If you are a girl, keep multi-dating until one man stands out from the pack and actually makes his intentions known and says 'I want only you'. If you're a guy, as soon as you realise you have strong feelings for one particular girl, simply tell her.
BCCA Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 My rule is simple: if you have sex with me, its got to be ONLY with me. If youre not up for it, I guess were done. Im not going to share an intimate partner with anyone else, though.
clv0116 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Women by and large are defacto multi-daters, they just use biology to dress it up as something else. Men multi date as well but not as effectively and it's not as socially accepted.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 If you've multi dated several people for a period of time and have fun with them but seeing it going nowhere and continue to multi-date them, you are effectively stringing them along. If I don't see it going anywhere, and honesly most of us know the answer to this question several months in, I know I should cut loose even if I like him as a person and have fun with him. It's not fair to him or to me. If you really like the person, you should persue a relationship with only them and see what happens. Life isn't a gurantee but I think it's crappy to string other's along because of your own indecisiveness. Especially if they are looking for somethign else. Indecisiveness can be a form of selfishness.
BCCA Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Indecisiveness can be a form of selfishness. I dont buy indecisiveness. I think you know full well that youre either into them or youre not, and hiding behind 'I just dont know' is such a cop out. You can say you dont know about anything for as long as you want, but at the end of the day, you know how you feel about someone.
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